Recording for February 4, 2016

(week 114) 4 February 2016 12 Step Study All Addictions Workshop

AA 12 x 12 Step 7: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

For today’s recording go to the website or dial callback: 641 715 3900 pin no. 95666#

Tuesdays 8am EST. ’Pass It On’ – Bill Wilson’s biography, a tremendous read. You learn so much about the Big Book. It is an intimate group and everybody is welcome.
Call back: 641 715 3900 pin no. 298913#

Summary of the steps: dial the same main number adding for part 1: pin no. 235934# for part 2 pin no. 578290#

If you wish to donate towards the upkeep of the website send this to:

Stephanie Whiting
PO Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

NOTE: Sue is compiling a brand new members’ list so if you would like to be included whether you are an existing or new member please send your name, phone number, time zone and if you wish, times to call, along with your email to: sue7263@aol.com
If you do not have email, telephone her on: 434 987 4349

Soul work

AA 12 x 12 Step 7: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
12 x 12 Page 72 last paragraph: ‘’In all these strivings, so many of them well-intentioned..’ until page 73 end of second paragraph: ‘…and true love of man and God the daily basis of living.’

Q1. What is God saying to you? Where do you think your path is? In all humility accepting where you are today, moving towards what God wants you to be, where do you think God is is leading you?
[Maybe one of you is saying: I have always wanted to learn to ski and been afraid.
Or: I really want to take a trip to Switzerland, but always put it off. This is a lack of humility and is not accepting who you are today and being willing to walk where God wants you to walk. And it is Quiet Time and Action Plan. Quiet Time and Action.]

‘In all these strivings, so many of them well-intentioned, our crippling handicap had been our lack of humility.
We had lacked perspective to see that character-building and spiritual values had to come first, and that material satisfactions were not the purpose of living.
Quite characteristically, we had gone all out in confusing the ends with the means.
Instead of regarding the satisfaction of our material desires as the means by which we could live and function as human beings, we had taken these satisfactions to be the final end and aim of life.’

Q2. Write on these four sentences.
What is your perspective?
Are you lacking humility because you don’t think you are paid enough? Or you are dissatisfied with the job and are only staying for the money?
What do you think about character building? Is it important to you?
Are spiritual values important to you and why? Do they come because you are afraid or because they are in your heart?

Q3. New slogan: Bless them and change me.
Write on this. What does it mean in relation to humility and the perspective of you doing character building and caring about spiritual values?

‘We never thought of making honesty, tolerance, and true love of man and God the daily basis of living.’
Q3 What is your aim in life?

‘True, most of us thought good character was desirable, but obviously good character was something one needed to get on with the business of being self-satisfied.’
Q4. What happens when addicts, we ourselves, live for being self-satisfied?

Q5 If we used a proper display of (100%) honesty and morality (values) we’d stand a better chance of getting what we really want. Where are you on the spectrum?

Q5. What do you need to tell your accountability partner?
[Text or e-mail me what you need to bring to your accountability: stephaniew324@aol.com
Totally confidential. Not telling you you have to, would like you to.]

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Recording for January 28, 2016

(week 113) 28 January 2016 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

AA Big Book: page 72 Step Seven: ‘Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.’

For today’s recording go to the website or dial callback: 641 715 3900 pin no. 95666#

Tuesdays 8am EST. ’Pass It On’ – Bill Wilson’s biography, a tremendous read. You learn so much about the Big Book. It is an intimate group and everybody is welcome.
Call back: 641 715 3900 pin no. 298913#

Summary of the steps dial the same main number adding for part 1: pin no. 235934#
for part 2 pin no. 578290#

If you wish to donate towards the upkeep of the website send this to:

Stephanie Whiting
PO Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

NOTE: Sue is compiling a brand new members’ list so if you would like to be included whether you are an existing or new member please send your name, phone number, time zone and if you wish, times to call, along with your email to: sue7263@aol.com
If you do not have email, telephone her on: 434 987 4349

AA 12 x 12 Step 7 page 72 entire first paragraph: ‘Certainly no alcoholic, and surely no member of AA.,..’until ‘..Never was there enough of what we thought we wanted.’

soul work

look up: deprecate, demanding, oblivion.

Q1a). Are you still demanding from God, from others, from programs, fellowships, security, prestige and romance?
Use your own categories where you may be over-demanding of people places and things.

b) If you are, how is it working for you?

When we do get to step eight you can bring this question to quiet time. Who or what am I demanding more than you want to give me? God is in charge. If you are asking more than God wants you to have then it is going to backfire.

In adversity people and substances cannot give me comfort. They just become a problem and a distraction. Only God can give that comfort to me. I was demanding from food what food was never meant to do. It was meant to fuel my body not give me emotional comfort.
I have asked you many times the step two proposition: What areas of your life are not working? What are you not giving to life? This is where you need to look at making amends. Every step interchanges with each other.

Q2. I teach people how to treat me. Write on this.

The opposite of gratitude and humility is demanding more than your share.
This sums up steps six and seven.

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Recording for January 21, 2016

(week 112) 21 January 2016 12 Step Big Book All Addictions workshop

AA Big Book: page 70 Step Seven: ‘Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.’

A special welcome if you are new to the group. If you would like to receive the members’ list and weekly soul work, please e-mail: sue7263@aol.com

For today’s recording go to the website or dial callback: 641 715 3900 pin no. 95666#

Tuesdays 8am EST. ’Pass It On’ – Bill Wilson’s biography, a tremendous read. You learn so much about the Big Book. It is an intimate group and everybody is welcome.
For the recording: 641 715 3900 pin Tuesday call back pin no. 298913#

Summary of the steps dial the same main number adding
for part 1: pin no. 235934#
for part 2 pin no. 578290#

If you wish to donate towards the upkeep of the website send to:

Stephanie Whiting
PO Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

AA 12 x 12 Step 7 page 70 from second paragraph: ‘Humility, as a word and as an ideal…’ until end of first paragraph page 71
’…Solely by their own intelligence and labor, men will have shaped their own destiny.’

Soul work

Q1. Commit to calling one person on the Big Book members’ list this week.
If you do not have the list ask Sue to send you one: sue7263@aol.com

Steps eight and nine are about building bridges and you are going to need support. Stephanie will be right beside us but we need one another. So call somebody different on the members’ list. We need to build community.This cannot be a cohesive group if we do not call one another.
[We are all more alike than different which is why we need each other. What I struggle with you struggle with. The more we think we are different the more we separate ourselves. That said, we have to be careful as people get co-dependent and want to fix us. Instead we need to let God help us to come to the other side.]

Many people do steps four and five but not steps eight and nine because of pride and fear. Behind every fear is pride. The counter to pride is giving God the credit.

Q2.What did you used to think abundance, security and personal satisfaction looked like? Write about your evolution. Any amount: a paragraph, ten pages, it does not matter. Own your experience. If you would like to read it to the group next week we would love to hear it.

Own this: ‘There will be such abundance that …………. (write your name here) can have all the security and personal satisfaction she desires’.

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Recording for January 14, 2016

(week111) 14 January 2016 12-StepStudy Big Book all addictions workshop

AA Big Book: page 70 Step Seven: ‘Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings’.

If you are new to the group: welcome!
To receive the members’ list and weekly soul work, please e-mail: sue7263@aol.com

Tuesdays 8am EST. ’Pass It On’ – Bill Wilson’s biography, a tremendous read. You learn
so much about the Big Book. It is an intimate group and everybody is welcome.

If you wish to donate towards the upkeep of the website send to:

Stephanie Whiting
PO Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

AA 12 x 12 Step 7 page 70

Soul work
No God No Peace.
Know God Know Peace, Joy, Surrender, Wisdom, Sobriety.

Look up: humble, remove, adversity

Humbly is an attitude. Also an action for which I make an action plan. I can have a positive attitude yet if I don’t act on it it is just an attitude. So humbly is an attitude first then an action through our action plans with God.

‘Him’ is God.

Above ‘shortcomings’ write ‘mistakes.’

For me, mistakes says it better. When I am impatient I have a mistaken idea, its a mistake of my thought process. I am not a bad person. God loves me and I am still loveable. I have had mistaken thinking and acted mistakenly.

God gives me the ability to erase my mistakes:
To realise I have made a mistake.
2) Ability to admit it to God, myself and to my accountability partner.
3) To go to the person I have had the mistaken thinking with and make amends.

Q1. Take the sentence: ‘Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings’
a)Write on each word: humbly, asked, God, to remove, our mistakes.
What does the sentence mean? Own it. [I just shared my thoughts with you, what are yours?]

Q2. a) Bill is saying that attaining greater humility is the foundation principle of each of AA’s twelve steps. Do you believe that?

b) Bill says that without some degree of humility, no alcoholic can stay sober at all.
Write about that sentence and really think about it like I have just done. It is a pretty heavy duty statement. I hope I have given you enough time to think about it. [I cannot believe how power packed even one word is….]

‘Nearly all AA have found, too, that unless they develop much more of of this precious quality than may be required just for sobriety, they still haven’t much chance of becoming truly happy’

a) Write ‘humility’ above ‘quality’.

b) Write ‘peaceful’ above the word ‘happy’.

What is happiness? But peace in the face of my own death, I have beloved family members who are facing death. Peace when a child is in drugs, alcoholic, breaking our hearts, not having much to do with you. What is happiness [compared to] peace? I am not rewriting the 12 x 12 just giving you my experience.

‘Without it, they cannot live to much useful purpose, or, in adversity, be able to summon the faith that can meet any emergency.’

Write ‘humility’ above the second word: ‘it.’

Humility means knowing how much I need God.

My new slogan is: I am going to God for the Truth.

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Recording for January 7, 2016

(week 110) 7 Jan 2015 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions workshop
AA Big Book: page 76 Step Seven: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
If you are new to the group: welcome! If you would like to receive the members’ list and weekly soul work, please e-mail: sue7263@aol.com

Tuesdays 8am EST. ’Pass It On’ – Bill Wilson’s biography, a tremendous read. You learn so much about the Big Book. It is an intimate group and everybody is welcome.

If you wish to donate towards the upkeep of the website send to:
Stephanie Whiting
PO Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

Soul work

AA Big Book: page 76 Step Seven: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.”

‘Are we now ready to let God remove from us all the things which we have admitted are objectionable? Can He now take them all – every one? If we still cling to something we will not let go, we ask God to help us be willing.

‘When ready, we say something like this: “My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen.” We have then completed Step Seven.’

Q1. In the second paragraph wherever the word ‘you’ appears write above it ‘God’.

Q2. Write this down: TIME: Things I Must Experience.
[And remember: it is God’s timing not ours].

Q2a). Look up: usefulness.
b) What does it look like to be useful to God, to yourself, to your family, to others such as your community, work, church, town, country, the larger context? Write on this.

Amen means: so be it; I stand on this; this is what I want. God I am making a pact with You.
It is a very powerful word. You are going into agreement with what you have just said.

Shame and Guilt.
Stephanie: Shame kept me stuck. Definition that I use for shame is: God you made a mistake in making me. Guilt is: I am not a mistake God, I made a mistake.
I don’t have shame today as I have a loving God who loved me in the womb and wants me whether or not my parents do. So shame is denying God wanted me to be created. I do know that God wants me to admit when I make a mistake, but not to believe I am a mistake. I am never a mistake in God’s eyes. I am very, very precious.

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Recording for December 31, 2015

(week 209) 31 December 2015 12 Step Study All Addictions workshop

A A 12 x 12 . pages 155-9 Tradition Six

An A.A. group ought never endorse, finance or lend the A.A. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige, divert us from our primary purpose.’

Soul work

* Page 156 2nd paragraph: ‘Providence, through A.A., had brought us within reach of our highest expectations’. Above the word: Providence write: ‘God’

* Write this down:
Share a tiny little bit of your story and what you are doing, and see what comes back.

Look up: meritorious, quarantine, neurosis, consternation, endorsements

Q1a. Has 2015 taught you what works?
b. How are you going to bring that into 2016?
c. Are you going to stay open to learning even more about what works?

[If you know what works you are obviously not going to do what doesn’t work. Write down what works and bring it to Quiet Time. And make sure you have gratitude that you learnt what works. Then ask God in Quiet Time: How can I expand on this? That is what a recovered person is all about. You know what works and you keep asking to improve. Looking at life as a half-full glass.]

Q2. Look at perfectionism. Why do you want it?
[My experience personally and when working with people is that beneath perfectionism is fear that you are not good enough. Perfectionism makes you very self-centered. You are not really thinking ‘what can I do to help others?’ but rather ‘how can I look perfect and how can this work out so I look good.’ It is a very fearful way of living, no trust. It’s also sad. I lived that way for many years].

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Recording for December 24, 2015

(week 208) 24 December 2015 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

There will be a workshop on New Year’s Eve

Soul work

After giving a summary of Steps 1-5 (and then Six and Seven) Stephanie said the only soul work she was giving this week was the following:

The Big Book says:
If you are concentrating on the problem you cannot possibly be concentrating on the solution.

Q1. Write about this. More importantly live it: especially live in the solution.

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Recording for December 17, 2015

(week 207) 17 December 2015 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

*Tuesdays 8am EST: No workshop of As Bill Sees It on December 21 2015

*If you need list of assets or need a buddy contact Sue72632aol.com

Step Six.
12 x 12 Page 68 final paragraph until end of Step Six on page 69.

Soul work

Circle each word in your 12 x 12 and look up the meaning of:
open-mindedness
venture
haltingly
aim

Q1. If you feel you are not at all open-minded, put that on a card for your assets. And in your Quiet Time ask God what would open minded look like?

Q2. Are you going to venture into open-mindedness and daily keep asking God: ‘What new venture do you have for me today?’

We shall need to raise our eyes towards perfection and be ready to walk in that direction.

Q3. It does not say I have to be perfect. It says that I am to go towards ‘Good’ to ‘Better’ and keep on asking God to lead me to even better. Write on that. Write an example of where God had you and something was OK but then because of the venture into open-mindedness you went from better to great.

Q4. Who is in charge of your life…is it a human being or is it God?

Q5 a). The only question is: are we ready and are we willing to venture into open-mindedness?
b) What would it look like to do things a little bit differently?

Q6. Is there anything in your life about which you are saying: This I will never give up? You know it is hurting you, your relationship with God, your family and your recovery?

*There will be a workshop on Christmas Eve and New Year’s Eve.

Ends.

Recording for December 10, 2015

(week 206) 10 December 2015 12 Step Study Workshop (All Addictions)

Send donations towards the upkeep of the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
PO Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

If you are new and want to be on the members’ list and receive the weekly soul work e-mail: sue7263@aol.com

Tuesdays 8am EST. ‘Pass It On’ – Bill Wilson’s biography, a tremendous read and opportunity to learn more about the Big Book. It is an intimate group and everybody is welcome.

AA 12 x 12 Step Six pages 67-68

Step Six is a preparation step. On 3 x 5 cards write down each character asset to offset the character defect you found in Step Four. We have lived for too long in self-condemnation with our character defects. Now, with God’s help and one another, we are going to try to live in our character assets. Look up the definition. Take a card every day and in your morning Quiet Time ask God how to work the chosen asset today.

Soul work

Stephanie suggests that every day we put on our Action Plan the question:
‘How can I encourage one other person today?’
[The person could be your sister, brother, husband, wife, colleague, friend, stranger, someone in the programme, etc.]
Encouragement is one of the greatest gifts we can give one another.

look up:
perverse
superiority
obliged
implication
perfection
ideals
encouragement

Self-righteous anger also can be very enjoyable. In a perverse way we can actually take satisfaction from the fact that many people annoy us, for it brings a comfortable feeling of superiority.
Are you harbouring self-righteous anger towards anybody?

2. Are you taking satisfaction that many people annoy you?

3. Are you unconsciously (or even consciously) living with an attitude of superiority because you have got recovery, are doing the Big Book, etc?

4. Where do you stand in relation to gossip?

5. Where are you with taking your comfort with food instead of going to God

Note: There will be a workshop on Christmas Eve and New Year’s Eve.

Recording for December 3, 2015

(week 204) 3 December 2015 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

AA 12 x 12 Step 6: ‘Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.’

Page 65 from start of second paragraph: ‘If we ask, God will certainly forgive our derelictions…’ until end of first paragraph page 67: ‘…imaginary sex excursions are apt to be all dressed up as dreams of romance.’

Last week we found our character defects (from step four) and wrote the opposite assets on 3 x 5 cards looking up the dictionary definition. Every day take a card to work on. Say today it is Humility.. So in Quiet Time ask God what it looks like to have humility. Then write an action plan around your day remembering that it is humility you are asking God to help you with today. This is how we are going to be working steps six and seven: as a half-full glass.

soul work
Page 65 penultimate paragraph underline: lifetime job.

Page 66: In the last line of first paragraph underline: grace of God.

look up:
exult
masquerade
superior
ambition

Step Six – “Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character” –
Q1. How many of us have this degree of readiness? You can write about this or say: ‘I am ready, bring it on.’

“No, I cannot give this up yet.”
Q2a). Write on what this means and why you saying it.
b) Change the ‘cannot’ to ‘won’t’. Are you ready to say: I won’t give this up yet?
And pray for the willingness to be willing? Write about that.

3. Write on where you have seen the Grace of God working in your life this past week?
Then bring that in thanksgiving to your Quiet Time.

Q4. Do you have the gift of desperation around your character defects?

Q5. How many of us speak love with our lips, and believe what we say so that we can hide lust in dark corner of our minds? Write on this.

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