Recording for September 18, 2014

(week 142) 18 September 2014 12-step study Big Book workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime

Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running with the same number: 712 432 8816

and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900

(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#

(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12 Step Study Workshop pin 95666# (All Addictions)

(3) Friday 12noon EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

AA 12 x 12 Step 3:

“Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”

Page 35:2 Entire paragraph starting: ‘Like all the remaining steps…’

Soul work

Today’s reading:

AA 12&12 Step Three/ p.34 ( 49th ed. ) – entire paragraph 2:

“Like all the remaining Steps, Step Three calls for affirmative action, for it is only by action that we can cut away the self-will which has always blocked the entry of God- or, if you like, a Higher Power- into our lives. Faith, to be sure, is necessary, but faith alone can avail nothing. We can have faith, yet keep God out of our lives. Therefore our problem now becomes just how and by what specific means shall we be able to let Him in? Step Three represents our first attempt to do this. In fact, the effectiveness of the whole A.A. program will rest upon how well and earnestly we have tried to come to a “decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”

Q1. Are you willing to go to any lengths to see situations in a different way?

It is only with action plans that we can cut away the self-will.

Q2a). How are your action plans going?

b) Do you have one for Quiet Time?

c) Do you have one for staying sober?

d) Do you have one for doing your soul work and calling your buddy/buddy group?

e) Do you have an action plan for being at work, with your family?

Q3. look up: affirmative
Affirmative action will cut away self-will which always blocked the entry of God into our lives. Please circle and write: ‘the answer’. After the words ‘affirmative action’ insert ‘plan’.

…step three calls for affirmative action, for it is only by action that we can cut away the self-will.

Look up: earnestly

How earnestly are you willing to go to the body shop and, after you’ve cut out the floorboards of your car to be able to run and then push your vehicle yourself, get them welded back in and then go to still a different workshop to get an engine, that engine being God?

The willingness to stop running (y)our own vehicle allows one to make the leap from having an intellectual belief and feeling about God to having trust and faith in God

Q4. Above ‘self will’ write: ‘bondage to self’.

Ends

Recording for September 11, 2014

(wk 141) 11 Sept 2014 12 step study Big Book workshop

AA 12 x 12 page 33

Step 3:

‘Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him’ until the end of the first paragraph …These conclusions did not require action; they required only acceptance.’

An action plan puts intellect over emotions.

1a) When was the last time you put the I over the E (i.e. intellect over emotion) and what was the result?

b) When was the last time that you put the E over the I and what was the outcome?

c) How does an action plan fit into keeping the intellect over the emotions?

2a) look up: Practicing

b) What does it mean to you? Is it a positive or a negative word for you?

c) Write about ‘practicing’ by putting the intellect over emotions.

d) Write about ‘practicing’ by the emotions over the intellect.

When we turn our thoughts and our emotions over to God, we are practicing.

When you are healthy and make a mistake, you have your feelings over your intellect. You know you have said the wrong thing or over-reacted. It is suggested we take these steps:

a.Awareness
b.Acknowledge To yourself and aloud to God: “I blew it.I did not have intellect over emotions.”
c.Prayer Pray for the wisdom to put your intellect over feelings and for the wisdom to know how to handle the situation.
d.Action plan. To right the mistake to the best of your ability. God please give me the wisdom to set up an action plan. How do you right the mistake you just made? That is when you need the intellect over the emotions. You are not the worst person in the world. The action is the decision to walk through all the negativity and the fear (False Evidence Appearing Real). You are going to walk through it by Facing Everything and Recovering (FEAR).
e.Amends If you need to make an amend let God direct you – don’t let your feelings get in there.

Q3. Write on a recent mistake (irrespective of whether or not you handled it well). Take the above steps and without judgment put your mistake experience through them. You will then have a concrete action plan for yourself.

There is only one key, and it is called willingness.

Stephanie says: “What is the most important spiritual emotion? Willingness. If you have willingness you can face anything. I love willingness. I pray for it every day. Help me to be willing to face this day with peace and joy and enthusiasm. God help me to face with courage and willingness everything you want to give me this day. I am average in everything except enthusiasm and in that I am over the top. Willingness to face reality. My definition of reality is: Life As It Is Without All my Fears. Just facing what’s in front of me without a lot of the old or future baggage.”

Q4. The door opens almost of itself. Write ‘a promise’ beside this in the 12 x 12.

In the first two steps we looked at the past. Now still going to look at the wreckage but going to stay in the present. What is this? That in every second of every day we are making a decision to turn our thoughts and our actions over to God.

In the first few steps we were engaged in reflection.

What do we have to accept?
a.That we were powerless and could not manage our own lives.
b.That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism
c) That God could and would if He were sought.

Everything in the Big Book and in the AA 12 x 12 always goes back to the a) b) and c). Continuously and daily return to pages 60-63 which say how desperate you are.

If you do not have the willingness to accept that you need God for every breath you take, you are not in steps one, two and three. It took Stephanie 23 years in recovery and eating again “…to really see that I did not have a relationship with God to keep me out of self-pity and out of the food. And I had better go and seek Him. So I did and everything in my life changed. I am here to help you change your life, not for me but for you and your relationship with God.”

Every one of you has their own pathway to God. May you seek Him now. Half measures availed us nothing. You are at the turning point.

Q5 What are you going to do?

Recording for September 4, 2014

(week 140) 4 September 2014 12step study Big Book workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Donations to support the website:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running with the same number: 712 432 8816
and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900

(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12Step-Study Workshop pin 95666# ( All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12n EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Big Book How It Works page 63:2 3rd Step Prayer

We were now at Step Three. Many of us said to our Maker, as we understood Him:
“God, I offer myself to Thee – to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always!”

We thought well before taking this step making sure we were ready; that we could at last abandon ourselves utterly to Him.

Stephanie has encouraged us all to memorise the 3rd step prayer which she goes to, “…about fifty times day especially using as a mantra: ‘relieve me of the bondage of self.’”
May I do Thy will God always!

This is a mini prayer. Bill is also warning us that If we start getting into our own will we are in a bad neighbourhood. Don’t think your will is bad. It is very, very needed as without your will God cannot operate with HIs will. Need to use your will and intellect to go where your Higher Power wants you to go. The Big Book says we’re given a mind to use.

Soul work

Q1. Write down:

Know your Maker and you will know peace.

No relationship with your Maker – no peace.

Stephanie is not my leader.

“I am your partner. I have gone before you in the Big Book and so I am waiting for you to come beside me. I am not going to push or pull you. I will walk beside you and guide you the way my sponsor guided me and told me that getting to know my Maker is what the Big Book is all about.

Q2. In the 3rd Step Prayer what does the word ‘seek’ mean?

Q3. If you want to personalise the 3rd step prayer by rewriting it, Stephanie encourages you.

Q4. Above the words: ‘Thy will not mine be done’ write: ’God’s will not mine be done.’
God is everything or God is nothing.

Q5 Action Plan:

Stephanie encourages us to have a daily action plan. She finds having an action plan prevents her getting into difficulties and the bondage of self. “I ask God first thing: What do you want me to do? Who do you want me to be with? I then make an action plan for the day. Make my food and write it out as I know God wants me to eat in a healthy manner.”

She is willing to work with any of us to create an action plan but will not stay in the problem.

Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life.

Q6. We all have difficulties. What are you going to do about yours?

[If you are in the problem you cannot possibly be in the solution].

Q7. Trust & Rely meeting

People demonise the will. In Quiet Time ask your Higher Power: Where do you want me to be?

Today God directs Stephanie’s life. Her Quiet Time is non-negotiable. She only got to understand God’s will through practice and listening. Come to the Trust and Rely meeting on Fridays (see above) and practice what we are doing, then you will be able to hear God.

Q8. Write down: Feelings are a gift, will is a gift, intellect is a gift and difficulties are a gift.

They all have to be used. Bring them through God’s will and sharing with others. The key word is ‘sharing’. The most Stephanie does is suggest having a Quiet Time. She does not tell anyone what to do.

Q9. Write on each of these statements:

a) Difficulties are a gift.

b) Intellect is a gift

c) Will is a gift.

d) Feelings are a gift.

Q10. How can each of these gifts be a stumbling block?

Q11. How can going to other people be a gift?

Q12. Next week bring AA 12 x12 to the workshop as we will be reading step 3.

Ends

Recording for August 28, 2014

(wk 139) 28 August 2014 12-step study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Donations to support the website:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running with the same number: 712 432 8816
and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900

(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#

(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12Step-Study Workshop pin 95666# ( All Addictions)

(3) Friday 12n EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Soul work

Big Book page 63:3

‘We found it very desirable to take this spiritual step with an understanding person, such as our wife, best friend or spiritual adviser. But it is better to meet God alone than with one who might misunderstand. The wording was, of course, quite optional so long as we expressed the idea, voicing it without reservation. This was only a beginning, though if honestly and humbly made, an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.’

Q1. Write down the following:

1) Stephanie is not my Higher Power!

2) I do not have to do anything that Stephanie says or suggests.

3) Look up the word suggestion so you really know what she is doing: she is only suggesting.

4) Know that Stephanie wants you to really own your Big Book and recovery.

Q2. Draw the spiritual triangle again with God/Higher Power at the top and on the left-hand bottom corner put your name and on the right-hand corner write your sponsor, step one fellowship, big book group, study buddy and program friends. Make sure you draw arrows pointing from both bottom corners up to God/Higher Power.

Q3. Are you willing to walk this journey with God on top, with your intellect over those feelings of fear, doubt, insecurity and any other negative feelings?

[It is so much easier to be told what to do rather than thinking for ourselves. When, for example, our step one fellowship tells us what to do, know they really have not studied the Big Book].

Q4. Questions to your sponsor.

Next week is talk-to-your-sponsor Thursday. Stephanie will be available to answer questions or hear comments until 10am EST. If you want to you can also e-mail a question to her: stephaniew324@aol.com

and she will bring it to the group (or text or phone her: 617 774 7016).

Q5. Fellowship*.

Bottom of page 63 is telling us something very very important. ‘We found it very desirable to take this spiritual step with an understanding person’. You need an understanding person. Get a buddy, get a group. If you don’t have a buddy or a group member list e-mail sue7263@aol.com explaining you need a buddy and to be put onto the group list.

* Call one another other, share honestly. Become intimate and really learn to trust each other.

Q6. What does ‘without reservation’ mean to you?

Stephanie says: “I wanted you to take the 3rd step without reservation. I don’t think any human being can be 100 percent about anything, but we can be willing to be willing to be without reservation – that is good enough.

I did not command you be willing to be willing. I did demand you not take step three if you could not say it honestly without reservation. Why? I cared enough for you to not take the commitment if you in your heart of hearts you were only doing it for the group or for me. Just as you say: God help me to be sober today, you can also say: God help me to be willing to be willing.

It is only a beginning. It is a lifetime of work and thoroughness. I work on my own recovery and relationship with my higher power and I do the service of giving it away. The work is awesome, I love it. And the service gives a joy I have never known in any other arena. It is the greatest work I do. And being with all of you, suiting up and showing up when I am asked. Please don’t stop asking me to show up for you. I wouldn’t know what to do with myself. I mean that. I cannot wait for next week to be with you until 10am – I love that. So don’t think you are bothering me, I love it.”

…though if honestly and humbly made an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.

Q7. What do you want? Write from your heart.

Q8. Trust and Rely meeting on Friday at 12 noon

Stephanie: I really encourage you to come to the Trust & Rely meeting and if you cannot come live go to the recording and do what we are doing live – learn to write from your Higher Power and God.

That is the way we get well. We get honest with ourselves. We see who we are. We are really very beautiful people, but we won’t even appreciate ourselves if we don’t get to know ourselves.

The Trust & Rely meeting is really where this is all leading to. It is everything I got out of doing the Big Book process. I read something then I ask my Higher Power: “What do you want me to know about this? Then I write. It is not even me writing. It is my Higher Power writing through me. I then meditate and get even more. Meditating gives God more of a vehicle to talk to me and guide me. This is the whole purpose of doing the Big Book process: to really let your Higher Power guide your every step.

Ends.

Recording for August 21, 2014

(week 139) 21 August 2014 12-step study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

Good resource: www.AA.org This website has the Big Book and the AA Reflections read at the Friday Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Donations to support the website:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie now has three groups running all with the same callback number: 641 715-3900

(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12Step-Study Workshop pin 95666# ( All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12n EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Big Book from top of page 63 – end of paragraph 2: “When we sincerely took such a position….” through Step Three prayer plus last sentence:

“God, I offer myself to Thee- to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy power, Thy Love, and Thy way of life. May I do Thy will always!” We thought well before taking this step making sure we were ready; that we could at last abandon ourselves utterly to Him.”

_____________________________________________________________________

Soul work

Before doing any step work writing say the 3rd step prayer.

It is the most of powerful prayers to overcome selfishness and self-centredness.

Look up: abandon, utterly.

Q1. Write down ‘Expect a miracle’. What does that mean to you? – not what you want but look and see what the miracles have been.
1(b) ….”all sorts of remarkable things (followed).”
What’s been the remarkable things? (You need to be able to see with new eyes the remarkable things that God puts into your life.)

Q2. Write out the 3rd Step Prayer on 3 x 5 inch cards. Stephanie suggests placing them: where we do our Quiet Time, on the fridge, in our car and always carry one with us.

Q3. To abandon yourself utterly to your Higher Power you have got to know who your Higher Power is. This means spending time with God in Quiet Time. Instead of asking to know what God wants you to know about yourself instead inquire: “What do You want me to know about You?”

Q4.a) Each day read different spiritual books such as AA Daily Reflections, OA 24-hour book, a religious book, Al-Anon daily readings, etc. Anything that tells you specifically what your Higher Power is all about and gives you insight.

b) Then write on what you have read in a Dear God letter. Afterwards sit quietly for a minimum of five minutes (10 is better) and reflect on what you read and wrote asking your Higher Power to give you a word or a phrase to help you to get to know your Higher Power. Whenever your mind wanders pray: “God help me to know about You.”

Q5. Memorize the 3rd Step Prayer and this week write on each word – rather than each sentence.

Q6. Call people who will encourage you to live God’s will not your will; to be the best you can for your Higher Power and to relieve you of the bondage of self.

Ends

Recording for August 14, 2014

(week 137) 14 August 2014 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions workshop

Big Book 1st paragraph on page 63.

‘When we sincerely took such a position, all sorts of remarkable things followed. We had a new Employer. Being all powerful, He provided what we needed, if we kept close to Him and performed His work well. Established on such a footing we became less and less interested in ourselves our little plans and designs. More and more we became interested in seeing what we could contribute to life. As we felt new power flow in, as we enjoyed peace of mind as we discovered we could face life successfully, as we became conscious of His presence, we began to lose our fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter. We were reborn.’

Good resource: www.AA.org This website has Big Book and the AA Reflections for Friday noontime Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Donations to support the website:

Stephanie Whiting,
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Any questions or comments on the workshop contact:
stephaniew324@gmail.com Tel: 617 774 7916.

Stephanie has 3 groups running now with the same callback number: 641/ 715-3900
(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12Step-Study Workshop pin 95666# ( All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12n EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Soul work

Look up: established

Q1. Read and re-read pages 59, 60, 61, 62, 63. What do they mean to you?

Read them to your group. Ask if you can share at a meeting in your step one fellowship and take out your Big Book and end at the 3rd step prayer.

[Help people to understand. There are famous people committing suicide. And for every famous one there are five in local groups who are also killing themselves. This is a serious mental illness and the answer is in the Big book. These five pages are not the whole answer but they sum it up pretty well - especially a, b, and c.]

Q2. Write HOW: Honesty Open-mindedness Willingness.

HOW brings recovery and it works. Write on HOW.

Q3. Write on the title of this chapter: How it Works.

God is everything or God is nothing.

When we sincerely took such a position, all sorts of remarkable things followed.

Q4a) Are you doing your Quiet Time?

b) Are you showing up for your buddy?

c) Are you doing your soul work?

d) Are you supporting the buddy groups?

e) Are you supporting the workshop for the greater good or just taking for yourself?

We had a new Employer. Being all powerful, He provided what we needed, if we kept close to Him and performed His work well. (Note that it says ‘needed’ not ‘wanted’).

Q5. Write down your needs.

Whenever there is the word ‘if’ in the Big Book, it is a directive, followed by a promise.

If we kept close to our God (directive No. 1).

Q6. How are you doing with your Quiet Time. How can it be improved?

Perform God’s work well (directive no. 2) is what I2-step recovery is all about.

Q7a). What does it mean in your life to perform God’s work well?

b) Do you know what you are supposed to be doing?

Write it down. Make an action Plan.

Q8. Are you doing a nightly review? [You may say ‘I am not on that step yet’. However need to do Steps 10 11 12 every day of your life because you are in recovery].

Established on such a footing we became less and less interested in ourselves our little plans and designs (directive no. 3).

Q9a) What is your action plan?

b) Are you becoming interested in seeing what you can contribute to life?

Give five examples of how you have contributed to life this year, week or today.

7th step prayer

My Creator I am now willing for you to have all of me, good and bad. I now pray that you remove from me every single defect of character that stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength and I got out from here to do your bidding.

Q10. Start memorizing this prayer.

[It is the second half of the 3rd step prayer. They are really one prayer. The 3rd step prayer in the Big Book does not have an ‘Amen’ as still so much work to do in steps 4, 5 & 6].

Ends

Recording for July 31, 2014

Today’s reading:
Big Book p.62 paragraphs 1 and 2: (para 1)”Selfishness–self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. ….(para 2) “So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves….Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! …. Neither could we reduce our self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on our own power. We had to have God’s help.”

Soul Work:
If we dissect the Third Step and Set-Aside prayers, we will find nine-tenths of the solution to our problems. Knowing what the root of our addiction is–selfishness and self-centeredness (i.e. we want to be liked, loved, and respected by all)– is the last one-tenth of the solution.
Q1) Write on that. Write on the magnitude of how that desire to be liked by all wrecks healthy
intimacy with others.

Q2) Write again on “Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity…” There are truly so many variations of forms of fear, etc.

Q3) Write: “I set the ball in motion to be hurt.
BB p. 62 para 1 says again and again and again that ‘I set the ball in motion to be hurt’ by making “decisions based on self”.
Stephanie learned to say, when she feels hurt by someone: ‘What have I done to hurt or harm you?’ to the person she feels hurt by – because it’s a subjective perception that causes broken relationships. And Stephanie doesn’t want any broken relationships in her life. (Does that mean Stephanie will keep these people in her life? Not necessarily.)

Q4) Write on Big Book p. 62 paragraph 2(the entire paragraph): “So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. ….Neither could we reduce our self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on our own power. We had to have God’s help.”

Q5) Are you there- knowing that you need God’s help?

Says Stephanie:
Hopefully, at the end of this workshop, you will be able to pass on the message and not your mess. My job is to walk alongside of you, for you to admit what your problem is, and then to live in the solution – no longer to moan about the problem. And finally- to pass it (the solution) on and help others.

The first step of the solution is the Third Step prayer.
If you dissect it, it has every bit of the solution:
(a) dissect the problem (b)pass it on to the God of your understanding and then (c) live in the solution.

The second step is the Set-Aside prayer:
To be teachable and humble. Remembering that we do not know, we must go to God. Thus we can never pretend that we know, with our egos, what is good for someone else (i.e. a sponsee).

These two prayer directives are nine-tenths of the solution.
The last one-tenth is really looking at our character defects and making amends.
Living in Step Ten, constantly taking inventory, equals ‘living in the solution’- looking at only our side of the street, at what WE do when others do to us what bother us.

If your problem (addiction) brings you to your knees it has done its job.

Recording for July 24, 2014

Today’s reading:
Big Book p. 61 beginning of last paragraph THROUGH p.62 end of 1st whole paragraph:
“Our actor is self-centered—ego-centric, as people like to call it nowadays. ….Selfishness—self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, sel-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.”

Today’s Soul Work:

Look up: fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, self-pity, retaliate, provocation

Q1) Take the last paragraph on p. 61 of the Big Book and dissect it.
( “Our actor is self-centered…Whatever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our self-pity?”)
Take the businessman, politician, minister and the safe cracker and write how you used your addiction like they did to keep yourself alive.

“Selfishness—self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.”
Q2) Write about the root of our problems in comparison to the root of a plant – which we learn, in biology, is what the whole living organism depends on — the root, that is.

“Driven by a hundred forms of fear…”
Q3) Write about the fear- that I am not going to get what I want.

“Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.”
Get down into your core and do soul-surgery on this selfishness and self-centeredness.
How can you recover?- via an Action Plan!

Ask God: How can I best serve thee?. Thy will not mine. God will show you action plans that will help you help others. And when you help others you will get the reward you were always looking for when you were demanding people give you everything.

Q4) Really look at your ‘hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking and self-pity’.
Look up these words and personalize them by listing your ‘hundred forms’ of each and going into them. Dig deep.

Once you realize that you have set the ball in motion to be hurt, take this statement:
‘I have set the ball in motion to be hurt’ and start getting into the habit of looking at yourself (instead of looking at others and thinking ‘ woe is me’). You will be so much better off.

Q5) What did you do to set the ball in motion? Was it your look, your action, your word (i.e. a slight)?

Stephanie doesn’t agree with many old timers’ belief that once recovered, the process of ‘recovery’ ends.
Says Stephanie: Recovery never ends. It just gets deeper, deeper, and deeper.
(Mark Houston and Joe Hawk said: ‘We learn and learn and learn’ throughout the 25 years they ran workshops.)

And she doesn’t want an overview anymore- which is what happens when you read a lot more pages (i.e. a whole chapter) of the Big Book at one meeting. She wants the real meat, which is why she’s happy to go slow, word by word- because every word has so much meaning.

Recording for July 17, 2014

(week 133) 17 July 2014 All Addictions Big Book Step Study workshop

Big Book last paragraph on page 61: Our actor is self-centred… until end of paragraph ‘…Are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our self-pity?’

12stepstudyworkshop.com for recording of this meeting. The playback number is: 641 715 3900 pin 95666#

Donations: All donations much appreciated as there are many monthly expenses for the website.

Stephanie Whiting P.O. Box 531 North Pembroke, MA 02358

Friday at noon (EST):“Awesome” Trust & Rely meeting on this same number and pin.

Playback number: 641 715 3900 pin 91904#

Soul work

Q1. Pages 60-62. Read them every day to really understand what our problems in life have been. They are powerful and very important providing the answer to any ‘why’ questions about our addictions and co-dependency.

Our actor is self-centred – ego-centric, as people like to call it nowadays.

Q2. If it is true (and its a tough statement to say about yourself) can you put your name over the word ‘actor’ ?

b) Do you feel comfortable doing that.

c) How does it make you react?

Q3. How are you with asking God for guidance versus trying to do things on your own willpower?

b) When you receive God’s guidance to go to the left (and know that going to the right would self-centred and egocentric) are you going to God for help or are you trying to do everything on willpower?

c) Do you even care when you are told by God that to go to the right is selfish and to go to the left is unselfish? You can really explore that. This is key as in the fourth step will write out whenever you went to the right: I am resentful at… then going to do a turn around and look at your own self-nature. It is the only way you can get recovery.

Q3a). Are you negative or positive? Do you look at life as a half empty glass like this retired businessman: complain and do nothing?

For example: Do you complain about your husband/children/job and do nothing to change yourself to be more loving?

Qb) Do you instead just say: Whatever happens I am going to handle it with a positive attitude?

Q4 Do you think there is anybody in your life (e.g. your spouse, psychologist, etc) or in your step one fellowship that you can jump on their back and things will be better?

[If you do, you have God as nothing. God is either everything or God is nothing. We cannot rest on somebody else doing our changing. If we see something that needs to be changed we have to do something. We cannot just sit back in an armchair and say it is wrong].

Q5. Fourth Step Preparation

Purchase a comfortable pen for all the writing you will be doing.

And a large (2.5-3 inches thick) three ring folder along with spare punched hole sheets and coloured dividers.

[Stephanie will be sending out lots of handouts. A spiral notebook will not work. And also need this format later as a document for your teaching others how to go through the steps.]

b) Print out the new member list and put it in the front of the folder.

[Will need these numbers to get encouragement for fourth step writing when feel resistant.]

Stephanie really believes Bill Wilson had a direct relationship with God when he wrote the Big Book and that the Big Book was meant to be adapted to all different forms of addictions.

She will help anybody with any addiction.

(But remember says Stephanie: Respect each Fellowship meeting’s particular singleness-of-purpose and speak only about that addiction for which they are grouped together.)

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