Recording for February 23, 2017

Week 269 All Addictions Big Book Step Study

Today’s reading: End of Step Ten
AA 12&12 p.93 beginning of para 3 – p.95 end of chapter

“When evening comes…many of us draw up a balance sheet for the day. … THROUGH… Having so considered our day, … sleep in good conscience.”

Q(1)(a) Are you looking at your day during the day? (b) Are you doing an inventory at night?

Q(2)(a) Are you checking your behavior?
(b) When you find you have pride, jealousy, anger, or are fearful, are you doing some sort of inventory on it – resentment or fear inventory?
(c) And are you looking for the root
cause?
(d) Did you do one last night?
(e) What did you find when you last did one?
(f) Share it with your buddy or with a friend.

Q(3)(a) Do you see the value in spot-check reviews?
(b) Have you seen a change since you’ve been doing spot-check inventories – a change where you’re not putting your foot in your mouth, where you’re pausing
by doing the spot-check?

Q(4) When you find you’ve acted in a mistaken way, do you recognize what you’ve done and then visualize how you might have done it better?

Q(5) Is there any rationalizing going on in your life? Are you rationalizing anything (today)?
[Rationalization – “The temptation…to imagine that we had good motives and reasons” (to do something) “when we really didn’t.”] (p.94 para 2 last sentence)

Do you want to build good character?
Do you want to have good living?
Then Step Ten is the answer.

Recording for February 16, 2017

Week 268 All Addictions Big Book Step Study Workshop

Step Ten continued.
Today’s reading:
AA 12&12 p. 93 beginning of para 1-
p. 93 end of para 2.

“We can try to stop making unreasonable demands…” THROUGH “…Am I doing to others as I would have them do to me – today?”

Look up: courtesy, kindness, justice, love, keynotes

Q(1)How are you in stopping the pushing, pulling, prodding, dictating and
dominating (a)with the ones you love?
(b)with those who have asked you to help them? (c)everyone else–
co-workers, distant neighbors, communal church goers, exercise partners, the cashier, …?

Q(2)(a)How are you doing with showing courtesy, kindness and respect with those you love? (b)Have you changed your attitude? (c)And have you changed _____________________.
(d)Give an example from this past week or month where you did show kindness, courtesy and respect where you had shown none(previously). How did the other person respond?
(e)In the past week or month, has someone shown you courtesy, kindness and respect where they had shown none? How did that feel? And how did you react?

Q(3)(a)How are you doing with someone you dislike?
(b)Action assignment:
Ask God every day
how can you practice justice and courtesy (towards this person), perhaps going out of your way to understand and help them.

Q(4)(a)What spot-check inventory works for you- 1)T.H.I.N.K. or
2)was it necessary?was it kind?
or 3) where have I been selfish, self-centered, dishonest, afraid?
(Perhaps all of them together.)
(b) Are you willing to promptly admit it, to listen to that deep inner voice, that small voice inside that says you didn’t really treat another person with respect?

Q(5)Is there a person in your life that refuses to be in harmony with you? How does it make you feel? How can you put your intellect over your emotions and really treat them with courtesy, kindness, justice, and respect? (That respect is really a love.)

Q(6)Write on trying to live moving towards perfection and not resting on your laurels – by using an Action Plan.

Q(7)When in doubt of what to say and/or how to say it, keep saying:
‘Thy will, not mine, be done’.
Write on that.

Q(8)(a)Write this down:
The universal Golden Rule:
Am I treating others as I would have them treat me today?
(b)How are you doing with: “Am I doing to others as I would have them do to
me – today?”

Note: SEE Q(4)
Two more possible methods of doing a spot-check inventory Stephanie has alerted us to are:
4) ‘Thy will, not mine, be done’.
5) Asking ourselves ‘Am I treating others as I would have them treat me today?’

(Now we have 5 different ways to do a
spot-check, walking-around inventory.)

Recording for February 9, 2017

Week 267 February 9, 2017 All Addictions Big Book Step Study

Today’s reading:
AA 12&12 p. 92 beginning of para 1- p.92 end of 3rd line.

“Now that we’re in A.A. and sober…” through “…has to be abandoned, if only a little at a time.”

Look up: radical, indifferent

Take three sick people in your life today and pray for them during the day for everything you ever wanted. See if your heart doesn’t change around your feelings for them.

Q(1)(AA 12&12 p. 92 para 2, mid line 3:)
“…(then) we approach true tolerance and see what real love for our fellows actually means.”
This is the backbone of Steps Ten, Eleven, and Twelve.
(a) Write on that. Really dig in.

If you can radically change your attitude around them (sick people who are hurting you) and look at them with a bandage around their heads, you will achieve true joy and peace and serenity.
(b) Do you believe that?
(c) Are you willing to do that?
(d) Have you been willing to do that in the past? And have you seen a radical change in yourself as a result?

Q(2) Write in your own words:
(a) What does being indifferent to somebody look like and
(b) What is detachment without love?

Q(3) See AA 12 & 12 p.92 paragraph 3:
“Such a radical change in our outlook will take time…”
through to its end atop p. 93:
“The idea that we can be possessively loving of a few, …ignore the many, and…continue to fear or hate anybody, has to be abandoned, if only a little at a time.”

(a) How do you feel about this paragraph? Write on it.
(b) What does it mean to you?

Q(4) How are you doing in your life today about detaching from the people-in-your-life-today, with love?

Q(5) Check yourself out around those people who are in your life now. Are you detaching with love or are you being indifferent or disrespectful?

Recording for February 2, 2017

Week 266, February 2, 2017 All Addictions Thursday Big Book Step Study

Today’s reading:
AA 12&12 p. 91 beginning of para 1-
p. 92 end of (full)paragraph 1.

“In all these situations, we need…” through
“…any success we may be having is far more His success than ours.”

Q(1) Ask yourself: Did I act hastily this week? Or did I act rationally?
Write on it.

Q(2) Did you see that, with acting hastily or rashly, your ability to be fair-minded and tolerant evaporated?

Q(3) Did that happen to you- did you have an unkind tirade?

Q(4) Are you having fantasies of greater victories over people and circumstances?

Q(5) Have you played the big-shot? Tried to control other people? Tried to get your way? If so, write it out.

Q(6)(a) Why is prideful self-confidence not recovery?
(b) What is recovery? How would you describe it?

Q(7)(a)Has anybody turned away from you? You need to look at that. (That looking is a spot-check inventory.)
(b) Were you playing the big-shot? Trying to control?
(c) Were you quick-tempered? Furious and power-driven? Sulking? In a state of silent scorn?

Q(8) Look up ‘vigilance’ and write on:
(a) What does vigilance look like?
(b) What is an Action Plan for you to have vigilance around Step Ten?

Q(9) Write on:
“As an insurance against “big-shot-ism” we can often check ourselves by remembering that we are today sober only by the grace of God and that any success we may be having is far more His success than ours.” ( AA 12&12
p. 92 last sentence para 1)

Recording For January 26, 2017

Week #265 All Addictions Big Book Step Study

No text reading today.

Exercise in How To Do a Spot-check Inventory:

(1)Take out a piece of paper and write
T.H.I.N.K. on it.

T- was it Thoughtful?
H- was it Honest?
I- was it Intelligent?
N- was it Necessary?
K- was it Kind?

(a) Ask yourself: ‘Do I owe an amend?’
Say T.H.I.N.K. to yourself and if you can say ‘no’ to any of those questions, you need to make an amend.

(b) Take something that’s happened in the last 24 hours that you don’t think went well and now write out a spot-check inventory on it using the tool of
T.H.I.N.K.
Note: Keep it simple, don’t over-analyze; we did the deep digging and analyzing in Steps Four through Nine. Just answer the 5 questions T.H.I.N.K. conjures up.

(If u don’t come up with something that happened within the past 24 hours, go back to something you feel still needs your amends.)

T.H.I.N.K.ing is really the essence of
Step Ten (“Continued to take personal
inventory and when we were wrong
promptly admitted it.”).

We now have a tool for different language in making amends, naming what we’ve done rather than saying
‘I’m sorry’ for these constant drips (chronic problems, constant irritations) we have in our daily lives.

The ‘I’m sorry’just doesn’t cut it anymore; it’s not believable anymore when it’s a constant problem.
But, when we be specific and name what we did, we’re being honest (H.- honest) with ourselves and the other person in the relationship.

Recording For January 19, 2017

Week 264, All Addictions, Thursday Big Book Step Study Workshop

Today’s reading:

AA 12&12 p.91 para 1- through para 2 end of sentence 3.

“In all these situations we need self-restraint, honest analysis… a willingness
to admit…to forgive… We need not be discouraged… We shall look for progress, not perfection.
Our first objective will be the development of self-restraint. …When we speak or act hastily or rashly, the ability to be fair-minded and tolerant evaporates on the spot.”

Q(1)My reaction is my responsibility.
(a) Write on that.
(b) What would have been a healthy reaction to situations in the past that you did not handle very well? (Now you can bring them to QT and meditate on them.)

Q(2) “…willingness to forgive… .”
(a) Write on that.
(b) And, on a scale of 1-10, with the last person you had a difference, where is your forgiveness?

Q(3)Write on this:
“We need not be discouraged when we fall into the error of our old ways… .”
(Getting discouraged, when I’m anything but perfect, is part of the disease. It happens when the great ‘I wanted to be’
[our ego] gets in the way.)

Q(4) “…, for these disciplines are not easy.”
( p. 91 para 1, next to last sentence)

[“…these disciplines…”, says Stephanie, refer to (a) when we accept ourselves
coupled with (b) accepting life on Life’s terms.]

Are you accepting yourself right where you are?

Q(5)(a)Write on: “We shall look for progress, not for perfection.”

That is how we start our nightly review and also our spot-check inventory. But people use that as an excuse for not trying to be the best they can be.

(b)Have you done that in the past,
rested on your past progress but ceased to look for your goal of perfection?

Q(6)(a)Taking everything Stephanie just discussed and described about herself in this workshop (regarding cancelling going today to her new exercise class due to not feeling well/ up to par), where are you? What would you have done in this situation?
(b)Write about such a situation in your life. And write out a spot-check inventory.

Shares … 5′ meditation led by Stephanie… Then:

(SW): Always come out of meditation
gently. Be gentle with yourself; God is a gentle God. People may be harsh, but God is gentle.
And, if in your meditations you realize a relationship in your life is not sweet, do a spot-check inventory on it and make amends, if necessary.
There’s no reason for our relationships not to be sweet.

ends

Recording for January 12, 2017

Week 263
Thursday Big Book Step Study
Today’s reading:
AA 12&12 p.90 last paragraph – through p. 91 paragraph 1, end of first sentence.
“”A spot-check inventory taken in the midst of such disturbances can be of very great help in quieting stormy emotions. … In all these situations we need self-restraint, honest analysis of what is involved, a willingness to admit when the fault is ours, and an equal willingness to forgive when the fault is elsewhere.”

Look up: self-restraint

Q (1a) Did you need to make a spot-check inventory this week?
(b) Did you have an instance where people or new events threw you off balance and tempted you to make a mistake?
(c) Or did u make a mistake and make a spot-check inventory?
Write on it.

And if you didn’t in this past week, write on the most recent time you did (where a person or an event threw you off balance and you knew you needed to make an amend).
(d) And if you didn’t (make the amend), how can you rectify it?

Q (2) Write on this:
“In all these situations we need self-restraint, honest analysis of what is involved…”
(a) What does that mean to you? and for you?
(b) What is self-restraint?
(c) When is the time you used self-restraint? And when is the time you didn’t?
(d) And what is the honest analysis?
You have 7 steps with which to honestly analyze the situation. Then you have to pray for the ‘willingness to admit when the fault is (y)ours’ and pray again for “an equal willingness to forgive when the fault is elsewhere.”

Q (3) Then, write on the entire paragraph(AA 12&12 p. 91 para 1), ESPECIALLY the willingness part.

Recording For December 22, 2016

Week 260 December 22, 2016
Today’s reading:
BB p. 85 para 1, entire paragraph:
“It is easy to let up… “How can I best serve Thee…the proper use of our will.”

(For What it means to be spiritually fit
See BB p.84-88)

Look up: laurels, reprieve

Stephanie’s 11-point list of
What It Takes To Stay Spiritually Fit:

(1) pray constantly – each moment being in conscious contact with God.

(2) meditate daily – on a spiritual or recovery concept ( e.g. on AA approved literature).

(3) read Twelve Step literature daily.

(4) give the Spiritual program away – the whole program is spiritual!

(5) talk daily to Twelve Step people (e.g. your buddy, accountability partners)

(6) do service in your group(s) – (e.g. sweeping the floor; serving the coffee; even just opening the door for those coming in)

(7) when at a meeting- participate.
(e.g. say your name; ask a question; make a comment- even if you only come to this one meeting)

(8) staying up-to-date with resentments, fears, selfish motives (=Step Ten inventory)

(9) stay rigorously honest (=100% honest with yourself and others)

(10) surrendering ‘my will’ to God and whatever that means ( for each of us, individually) physically and emotionally.

(11) do what you have to do to be at peace with yourself and others (e.g. if you need to make an amend; if you have to do something different – like accepting that you need another, additional program = surrendering to the fact that you have another problem.)

[There will be a meeting next Th. Dec. 29,
G-D Willing.]

Steps 10, 11, and 12 are all about the joy of being a human Being, not a human do-ing;
about learning from God how to live in this world – to accept that we are not perfect, that life is not a race, that we do make mistakes, and to accept ourselves, in balance.
When you fall, just pick urself up and dust yourself off and move on, forward.
Whenever we fall, God is always there to pick us up; we’re never done for.