Recording for October 30, 2014

(week 148) Oct 30 2014 12-step study Big Book workshop

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has two groups both on the same number: 712 432 8816 pin no. 32450#
They also have the same callback number 641 715-3900 – but different pin numbers:
(1) Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin no. 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST 12 Step Study (All Addictions) Big Book Workshop pin no. 95666#
*The Friday 12n EST Trust & Rely Workshop is cancelled for now due to lack of participation and leaders’ lives becoming full.

*No abstinence or sobriety requirements necessary here. No requirements- just suit up & show up!

* Shares are only recorded on the callback( which gets taken down after 7 days and is not archived), not on the website. If you wish not to be recorded, do not state your name.

*At the writing of the 4th Step, Stephanie will give us a total of 15 resentments to write about:
-5 of people, places, or institutions
-5 fears
-5 resentments on sex relations
If we want to write more, of course we may.

AA 12 &12 top of p. 39: ‘So how exactly can the willing person…’ until top of p. 40
‘…as a way of life can bring the much-desired result.’

If you have not yet got a buddy, e-mail: sue7263@aol.com.

Print out the handout on the directions for resentment that Sue sent out this week. Buy a two-three inch deep 3-ring punch binder and put it in there.

Soul work

Look up : bitterness, broods, victimized.

Q1. Are you willing to turn your will and your life over to a Higher Power?

Q2. Are you convinced that you have more problems than your addictions?

Q3. Have you come to the realization that there are some problems in life you really can overcome by personal determination and courage?

Q4a).What situation(s) in your life is not budging even though you have put into it all the determination, self-will and courage?

b) Or who is not budging: son, father, wife, partner, boss, co-worker, etc.?

c) When you get to the end of yourself, what are you going to do?

Above the word budge, write ‘change’.

Q5. Ask yourself, am I desperately unhappy about anything? Write it down.

Q6. Go to an Al-Anon meeting.
Listen to the Al-Anon philosophy of detachment, live and let live. They have sobriety, are detached and living a) b) and c) of the Big Book.
Then listen to the people who are trying to cajole, push, pull etc. do they have joy in their lives? [This is rich material for us to really do even before we get to the fourth step].

Our friend is still victimized by remorse and guilt when he thinks of yesterday.
Q7.Write out the two types of being victimized.

Q8. Two questions to ask in Quiet Time:
a) If you went to a party, who would you not want to walk through the door?
b) How do you feel when somebody’s name comes up?

Q9a) Does your financial insecurity worry you?

b) Are you having panic attacks over anything?

Q10. Do you have anyone that you might have icky feelings about? If so tell your buddy. (It will make your 4th step list so much easier to write).

Fourth line of last paragraph on page 39: ‘Of course the sponsor points out…’
Underline sponsor [It is the first time the word ‘sponsor’ is used].

Ends

Recording for October 23, 2014

(week 147) 23 October 2014 12 Step Study Big Book workshop

12 x 12 Step 3
Today’s reading:
AA 12&12 p. 36 last line- thru top of p. 39 end of 1st line:
“But the moment our mental or emotional independence is in question, how differently we behave. …..Whether in Alaska or on the Salerno beachhead, their dependence upon a Higher Power worked. And far from being a weakness, this dependence was their chief source of strength.”

Soul work

Look up: self-sufficiency.

Q1. How is it working for you?

Q2. When checking out new people to trust, take it slowly. Share a little and check to see what comes back. Then share a little more and again see if you like what comes back. Practice it this week and then write on how it went. How did it made you feel, taking a bit of a risk, trusting somebody?

This brave philosophy, wherein each man plays God, sounds good in the speaking but it still has to meet the acid test: how well does it actually work?

Q3. What do you want to do with your will power? Do you want to align it with the will of your Higher Power?

Q4. Good questions to bring to God:

a) Why do I need you God?
b) How well does my playing God actually work?

Q6a) Do you know any normal people?

b) Do you know people living on self-sufficiency?

Everywhere he sees people filled with anger and fear society breaking up into warring fragments. Each fragment says to the others, ‘“We are right and you are wrong.”

Q7a) Are you filled with anger and fear?

b) Are you part of society that is warring with other parts of society or are you disagreeing with certain things in our society, being able to accept them while not accepting the way someone thinks?

c) Who is showing that in your life?

d) You (put your name here) are right, they are wrong. How are you going to handle it?

Q8. Write on the slogan: Let go and let God or be dragged.

We realize that the word “dependence” is as distasteful to many psychiatrists and psychologists as it is to alcoholics. Like our professional friends we too are aware that there are wrong forms of dependence. We have experienced many of them.

Q9. Write about faulty dependence.
a. Whom do you have a faulty dependence upon?

b. If you don’t have a faulty dependence, write about how you were able to get out of that faulty dependence and into a healthy dependence upon your higher power and into trusting relationships.

Dependence on an AA group or a sponsor means you are on b) This is OK for awhile. Then need to go down to a higher power to c).
Q10. Are you in a) b) or c)?

“When World War II broke out, this spiritual principle had its first major test. …. Would they be able to …stand up under fire…?”
Q(11 ‘Under fire’ – are you under fire, under stress right now? How did you handle it?
Did you hunker down and go to God? Or did you go to faulty dependence? Or your addiction?

Recording for October 16, 2014

(week 14 6) 16 October 2014 12-step Big Book workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime

Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running on the same no: 712 432 8816 pin no. 32450#

and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900

(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12 Step Study Workshop pin 95666# (All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12noon EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

12 x 12 Step 3 page 37 paragraph beginning: ‘But the moment our mental or emotional…’

until end of next paragraph ‘…it is a bone-crushing juggernaut whose final achievement is ruin.’

Soul work

Look up: self-sufficiency.

Q1. Search out one or two people whom you really trust and respect. Maybe somebody that you have listened to and are on the same page spiritually. Perhaps a pastor, rabbi or somebody associated with your congregation, priest, minister, counselor. So that if you really had to make a big life decision and you feel you have heard from God that you can run it by these one or two and feel comfortable.

Q2. The other assignment in readiness for writing step four is to go the website 12stepstudyworkshop.com

Go to ‘Handouts’, find the fourth step instructions and worksheets. Make four or five copies of the instructions and 50 copies of the format and put them in your three-ring binder. Also get some filler paper.

Q3.How is it working for you, being your own authority figure?

Everywhere he sees people filled with anger and fear, society breaking up into warring fragments. Each fragment says to the others,”We are right and you are wrong.”

Q4. Are you filled with anger and fear? Are you, in your mind, breaking up into warring fragments?

Ends

Recording for October 9. 2014

(week 145) 9 October 2014 12-step Study Big Book workshop

Step 3 12 x 12 Page 35. Start of second paragraph:’Maybe this all sounds mysterious…’
until page 37 end of paragraph: ‘One good look in the mirror ought to be answer enough for any alcoholic.

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime
Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running on this same number: 712 432 8816 and pin no.: 32450#
and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900
(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12 Step Study Workshop pin 95666# (All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12noon EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Soul work

Serenity Prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Thy will not mine be done. Amen.
“Go to quiet time and ask God ‘what do You want me to do about this issue?’ Do the third step prayer, write about it, then share with another person.”

Look up: wisdom. The wisdom to know what to expect and what to change.

Q1 Examine your areas of dependence.

Q2. Look at your idea of this dependence. They are different.

Q3. Have an action plan to go to God with for next week asking God: ‘I know I have a dependency I am asking you to give me a conscious contact with myself on where I have unconscious dependence.’ It will shock you. When you sincerely ask God in Quiet Time to give you something you will get it.

[Remember the truth will set you free but first it will make you very angry.
Pick your accountability people very, very carefully. Be selective. You do not want to be isolated with your own thoughts. Don’t dismiss anyone. Get phone numbers of those who are saying recovered things. They can really give you unbiased recovered God-honouring feedback. We never tell each other what to do but we can give each other feedback.]

Q4 Lets get out of our own little world and think about our brothers and sisters in other countries and their dependences. Different from America. Living in such a wonderful country we really don’t have to worry about things.‘Concerned’ is a better word. Concerned about others. A beautiful way to live. If you worry why pray?

But the moment our mental or emotional dependence is in question how differently we behave. How persistently we claim the right to decide all by ourselves just what we shall think and just how we shall act. Oh yes, we’ll weigh the pros and cons of very problem. We’ll listen politely to those who would advise us, but all the decisions are to be ours alone. Nobody is going to meddle with our personal independence in such matters. Besides, we think there is no one we can surely trust. We are certain that our intelligence, backed by will power, can rightly control our inner lives and guarantee us success in the world we live in. This brave philosophy, wherein each man plays God, sounds good in the speaking, but it still has to be meet the acid test how well does it actually work? One good look in the mirror ought to be answer enough for any alcoholic.

Q5. Can you claim the right to decide all by yourself how you should act?
b) How did it work for you?

Q6. Inventory yourself.
a) How are you making a decision to think and act?
b) Are you self-willed?
c) Are you asking God to use your will and align it with His will so you are making decisions with what you know your Higher Power wants you to do and then having an Action Plan using your will with the plan?
That is Stephanie’s understanding of step 3: “It can all be boiled down to that.”

Q7. That’s the Third Step. Are you there?
If not come to Tuesdays Dr Bob and the Good Old timers and after the meeting and you can ask any questions you want.

Step Four:
To write Step Four you will need to be Honest Open and Willing. It takes an iron-clad self-will to sit down and write a fourth step. We are going to be answering hard questions such as where are you selfish? What did you want from this person? We don’t look at this very often. It is very pointed and doesn’t beat around the bush. Then you have to talk about what you want and dig even deeper and find out why you wanted it. This is not the normal way of looking at decisions in our culture.

ENDS

Recording for October 2, 2014

BB Step Study Soulwork #144 October 2nd 2014
(Page 35, middle of the page, to mid page 36).

Instruction for our writing “It’s very simple. We complicate everything.” Use a timer, do quiet time before we pick up the pencil when we do the 4th Step, and although we will want to rake the yard and clean out the cellar,

STAY there for the amount of time we have chosen, and do the work. It will simplify our thoughts and our lives.

1. Look up: non entity; egotism.

2. Read Step One in the 12 & 12.

3. Read top paragraph of page 36. Then study the sentence which Stephanie says is vital: “This, of course, is the process…development.”

4. Read again page 6) in the Big Book, on going from a to b.

“Ego: Lots of pride, Low Tolerance for Others’ Opinion”.

5. Read “Spiritual Experience (page 567) in the back of the Big Book, taking special note of quotes, including the quotation by Herbert Spencer at the bottom of the page.

Recording for September 25, 2014

(week 143) 26 September 2014 12 Step Study Big Book Workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime
Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running with the same number: 712 432 8816
and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900
(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12 Step Study Workshop pin 95666# (All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12noon EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Step 3:
‘Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.’
AA 12 x 12 page 36:entire first paragraph starting: ‘To every worldly and practical-minded beginner…’

Soul work

Q1. Have you made a decision to turn your life and your thoughts over to the care of God as you understood him?
b) Have you made that decision today?

Reaffirm this decision EVERY DAY if not stuck in the A and B of the Big Book on Page 60.

c) Have you made one big ‘Yes’ you are going to run my life! And then every day reaffirm that? If you have, then you have taken a third step. If not are probably stuck on a) or b) in the Big Book (page 60) .

Q2. Honestly where are you? (If you are not honest with yourself you cannot get well).
b) Have you made a decision today?

To every worldly and practical-minded beginner, this step looks hard, even impossible.
Q3. Are you a worldly person or a practically minded person and turning your thoughts and your actions to a God that you cannot see and touch and feel looks hard or even impossible?

Q4. Write this down:
If a situation brings you to your knees it has accomplished it’s purpose.

No matter how much one wishes to try, exactly how can he turn his own will and his own life over to the care of whatever God he thinks there is?

Q5. Nothing is impossible with God. Write on that.
b) What do you think is impossible for God? Write about this and bring it to your Quiet Time every day. [Stephanie doesn’t think anything is impossible for God and no longer questions anything].

Q6. Write your step three journey [Stephanie told you hers. She is always in step three as there is always more commitment, willingness, openness and honesty. It grows].
Must be OPEN MINDED and have WILLINGNESS to change THOUGHTS and
ACTIONS (turn thoughts and actions over to God) and do what Higher
Power is leading you to do.

Bill is giving us a promise here.
Fortunately we who have tried it and with equal misgivings, can testify that anyone, anyone at all, can begin to do it.
Q6. Look up misgivings.

Q7. Ask others about their walk with step three.
If people say they never had a misgiving, take them back. Something brought them to a rock solid belief in God. Hearing others’ stories is always a gift and a miracle. Seeking God is hearing another’s story and identifying.

If it doesn’t have my name on it is none of my business. Indeed anything beyond the tip of my nose is not my business. It is me and God. That’s why we need Quiet Time.

Q8. Trust & Rely Workshop
Stephanie is challenging you: if you are feeling frustrated because you are not hearing God, do this Trust & Rely format for 12 weeks. You need the format to learn to access listening to God.
a) Read the day’s entry from AA Reflections Book, three times asking your Higher Power: ‘what do you want me to get out of this?’
b) Write for 10 minutes (start with a minimum of five if writing is hard for you)
c) Then ask: God/HP what do you want me to meditate on? and when your mind starts wandering bring it back to that word or phrase.
d) Suggest you find somebody whom it is safe to read it to so you get practice at turning your life and your will over to the care of another.
It is a skill which takes willingness to be willing.

Re. Step 3: Be specific and ask God:
‘What does it (step three) look like for today, at work, in my recovery, in my food plan?’

Another promise:
We can further add that beginning even the smallest is all that is needed.

Step Three is the trampoline into the rest of the steps. It will jump you right into being willing to look at yourself and stop pointing fingers.
Never judge anybody. And if somebody judges us, know that 99% of people’s prejudice is they just haven’t been given the information. The Big Book says, ‘ignorance is prejudice prior to investigation.’ People think they know, but they don’t. Our job as recovered addicts is when we can we educate that there is another beautiful way of life, non-guilty, self-forgiving and getting on with helping others. We are so much more alike than different. And we in recovery can bridge the gap, just put it out there in a non-threatening and caring loving way. If people pick it up they pick it up. And they may file it away.

Q9.Write this down: It takes time to learn to turn things over.
Stephanie says: ‘I was not made well 16 years ago, but I was put on the road to becoming well to connect to God.’

Ends

Recording for September 18, 2014

(week 142) 18 September 2014 12-step study Big Book workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime

Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running with the same number: 712 432 8816

and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900

(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#

(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12 Step Study Workshop pin 95666# (All Addictions)

(3) Friday 12noon EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

AA 12 x 12 Step 3:

“Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”

Page 35:2 Entire paragraph starting: ‘Like all the remaining steps…’

Soul work

Today’s reading:

AA 12&12 Step Three/ p.34 ( 49th ed. ) – entire paragraph 2:

“Like all the remaining Steps, Step Three calls for affirmative action, for it is only by action that we can cut away the self-will which has always blocked the entry of God- or, if you like, a Higher Power- into our lives. Faith, to be sure, is necessary, but faith alone can avail nothing. We can have faith, yet keep God out of our lives. Therefore our problem now becomes just how and by what specific means shall we be able to let Him in? Step Three represents our first attempt to do this. In fact, the effectiveness of the whole A.A. program will rest upon how well and earnestly we have tried to come to a “decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”

Q1. Are you willing to go to any lengths to see situations in a different way?

It is only with action plans that we can cut away the self-will.

Q2a). How are your action plans going?

b) Do you have one for Quiet Time?

c) Do you have one for staying sober?

d) Do you have one for doing your soul work and calling your buddy/buddy group?

e) Do you have an action plan for being at work, with your family?

Q3. look up: affirmative
Affirmative action will cut away self-will which always blocked the entry of God into our lives. Please circle and write: ‘the answer’. After the words ‘affirmative action’ insert ‘plan’.

…step three calls for affirmative action, for it is only by action that we can cut away the self-will.

Look up: earnestly

How earnestly are you willing to go to the body shop and, after you’ve cut out the floorboards of your car to be able to run and then push your vehicle yourself, get them welded back in and then go to still a different workshop to get an engine, that engine being God?

The willingness to stop running (y)our own vehicle allows one to make the leap from having an intellectual belief and feeling about God to having trust and faith in God

Q4. Above ‘self will’ write: ‘bondage to self’.

Ends

Recording for September 11, 2014

(wk 141) 11 Sept 2014 12 step study Big Book workshop

AA 12 x 12 page 33

Step 3:

‘Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him’ until the end of the first paragraph …These conclusions did not require action; they required only acceptance.’

An action plan puts intellect over emotions.

1a) When was the last time you put the I over the E (i.e. intellect over emotion) and what was the result?

b) When was the last time that you put the E over the I and what was the outcome?

c) How does an action plan fit into keeping the intellect over the emotions?

2a) look up: Practicing

b) What does it mean to you? Is it a positive or a negative word for you?

c) Write about ‘practicing’ by putting the intellect over emotions.

d) Write about ‘practicing’ by the emotions over the intellect.

When we turn our thoughts and our emotions over to God, we are practicing.

When you are healthy and make a mistake, you have your feelings over your intellect. You know you have said the wrong thing or over-reacted. It is suggested we take these steps:

a.Awareness
b.Acknowledge To yourself and aloud to God: “I blew it.I did not have intellect over emotions.”
c.Prayer Pray for the wisdom to put your intellect over feelings and for the wisdom to know how to handle the situation.
d.Action plan. To right the mistake to the best of your ability. God please give me the wisdom to set up an action plan. How do you right the mistake you just made? That is when you need the intellect over the emotions. You are not the worst person in the world. The action is the decision to walk through all the negativity and the fear (False Evidence Appearing Real). You are going to walk through it by Facing Everything and Recovering (FEAR).
e.Amends If you need to make an amend let God direct you – don’t let your feelings get in there.

Q3. Write on a recent mistake (irrespective of whether or not you handled it well). Take the above steps and without judgment put your mistake experience through them. You will then have a concrete action plan for yourself.

There is only one key, and it is called willingness.

Stephanie says: “What is the most important spiritual emotion? Willingness. If you have willingness you can face anything. I love willingness. I pray for it every day. Help me to be willing to face this day with peace and joy and enthusiasm. God help me to face with courage and willingness everything you want to give me this day. I am average in everything except enthusiasm and in that I am over the top. Willingness to face reality. My definition of reality is: Life As It Is Without All my Fears. Just facing what’s in front of me without a lot of the old or future baggage.”

Q4. The door opens almost of itself. Write ‘a promise’ beside this in the 12 x 12.

In the first two steps we looked at the past. Now still going to look at the wreckage but going to stay in the present. What is this? That in every second of every day we are making a decision to turn our thoughts and our actions over to God.

In the first few steps we were engaged in reflection.

What do we have to accept?
a.That we were powerless and could not manage our own lives.
b.That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism
c) That God could and would if He were sought.

Everything in the Big Book and in the AA 12 x 12 always goes back to the a) b) and c). Continuously and daily return to pages 60-63 which say how desperate you are.

If you do not have the willingness to accept that you need God for every breath you take, you are not in steps one, two and three. It took Stephanie 23 years in recovery and eating again “…to really see that I did not have a relationship with God to keep me out of self-pity and out of the food. And I had better go and seek Him. So I did and everything in my life changed. I am here to help you change your life, not for me but for you and your relationship with God.”

Every one of you has their own pathway to God. May you seek Him now. Half measures availed us nothing. You are at the turning point.

Q5 What are you going to do?

Recording for September 4, 2014

(week 140) 4 September 2014 12step study Big Book workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Donations to support the website:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running with the same number: 712 432 8816
and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900

(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12Step-Study Workshop pin 95666# ( All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12n EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Big Book How It Works page 63:2 3rd Step Prayer

We were now at Step Three. Many of us said to our Maker, as we understood Him:
“God, I offer myself to Thee – to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always!”

We thought well before taking this step making sure we were ready; that we could at last abandon ourselves utterly to Him.

Stephanie has encouraged us all to memorise the 3rd step prayer which she goes to, “…about fifty times day especially using as a mantra: ‘relieve me of the bondage of self.’”
May I do Thy will God always!

This is a mini prayer. Bill is also warning us that If we start getting into our own will we are in a bad neighbourhood. Don’t think your will is bad. It is very, very needed as without your will God cannot operate with HIs will. Need to use your will and intellect to go where your Higher Power wants you to go. The Big Book says we’re given a mind to use.

Soul work

Q1. Write down:

Know your Maker and you will know peace.

No relationship with your Maker – no peace.

Stephanie is not my leader.

“I am your partner. I have gone before you in the Big Book and so I am waiting for you to come beside me. I am not going to push or pull you. I will walk beside you and guide you the way my sponsor guided me and told me that getting to know my Maker is what the Big Book is all about.

Q2. In the 3rd Step Prayer what does the word ‘seek’ mean?

Q3. If you want to personalise the 3rd step prayer by rewriting it, Stephanie encourages you.

Q4. Above the words: ‘Thy will not mine be done’ write: ’God’s will not mine be done.’
God is everything or God is nothing.

Q5 Action Plan:

Stephanie encourages us to have a daily action plan. She finds having an action plan prevents her getting into difficulties and the bondage of self. “I ask God first thing: What do you want me to do? Who do you want me to be with? I then make an action plan for the day. Make my food and write it out as I know God wants me to eat in a healthy manner.”

She is willing to work with any of us to create an action plan but will not stay in the problem.

Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life.

Q6. We all have difficulties. What are you going to do about yours?

[If you are in the problem you cannot possibly be in the solution].

Q7. Trust & Rely meeting

People demonise the will. In Quiet Time ask your Higher Power: Where do you want me to be?

Today God directs Stephanie’s life. Her Quiet Time is non-negotiable. She only got to understand God’s will through practice and listening. Come to the Trust and Rely meeting on Fridays (see above) and practice what we are doing, then you will be able to hear God.

Q8. Write down: Feelings are a gift, will is a gift, intellect is a gift and difficulties are a gift.

They all have to be used. Bring them through God’s will and sharing with others. The key word is ‘sharing’. The most Stephanie does is suggest having a Quiet Time. She does not tell anyone what to do.

Q9. Write on each of these statements:

a) Difficulties are a gift.

b) Intellect is a gift

c) Will is a gift.

d) Feelings are a gift.

Q10. How can each of these gifts be a stumbling block?

Q11. How can going to other people be a gift?

Q12. Next week bring AA 12 x12 to the workshop as we will be reading step 3.

Ends

Recording for August 28, 2014

(wk 139) 28 August 2014 12-step study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Donations to support the website:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running with the same number: 712 432 8816
and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900

(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#

(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12Step-Study Workshop pin 95666# ( All Addictions)

(3) Friday 12n EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Soul work

Big Book page 63:3

‘We found it very desirable to take this spiritual step with an understanding person, such as our wife, best friend or spiritual adviser. But it is better to meet God alone than with one who might misunderstand. The wording was, of course, quite optional so long as we expressed the idea, voicing it without reservation. This was only a beginning, though if honestly and humbly made, an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.’

Q1. Write down the following:

1) Stephanie is not my Higher Power!

2) I do not have to do anything that Stephanie says or suggests.

3) Look up the word suggestion so you really know what she is doing: she is only suggesting.

4) Know that Stephanie wants you to really own your Big Book and recovery.

Q2. Draw the spiritual triangle again with God/Higher Power at the top and on the left-hand bottom corner put your name and on the right-hand corner write your sponsor, step one fellowship, big book group, study buddy and program friends. Make sure you draw arrows pointing from both bottom corners up to God/Higher Power.

Q3. Are you willing to walk this journey with God on top, with your intellect over those feelings of fear, doubt, insecurity and any other negative feelings?

[It is so much easier to be told what to do rather than thinking for ourselves. When, for example, our step one fellowship tells us what to do, know they really have not studied the Big Book].

Q4. Questions to your sponsor.

Next week is talk-to-your-sponsor Thursday. Stephanie will be available to answer questions or hear comments until 10am EST. If you want to you can also e-mail a question to her: stephaniew324@aol.com

and she will bring it to the group (or text or phone her: 617 774 7016).

Q5. Fellowship*.

Bottom of page 63 is telling us something very very important. ‘We found it very desirable to take this spiritual step with an understanding person’. You need an understanding person. Get a buddy, get a group. If you don’t have a buddy or a group member list e-mail sue7263@aol.com explaining you need a buddy and to be put onto the group list.

* Call one another other, share honestly. Become intimate and really learn to trust each other.

Q6. What does ‘without reservation’ mean to you?

Stephanie says: “I wanted you to take the 3rd step without reservation. I don’t think any human being can be 100 percent about anything, but we can be willing to be willing to be without reservation – that is good enough.

I did not command you be willing to be willing. I did demand you not take step three if you could not say it honestly without reservation. Why? I cared enough for you to not take the commitment if you in your heart of hearts you were only doing it for the group or for me. Just as you say: God help me to be sober today, you can also say: God help me to be willing to be willing.

It is only a beginning. It is a lifetime of work and thoroughness. I work on my own recovery and relationship with my higher power and I do the service of giving it away. The work is awesome, I love it. And the service gives a joy I have never known in any other arena. It is the greatest work I do. And being with all of you, suiting up and showing up when I am asked. Please don’t stop asking me to show up for you. I wouldn’t know what to do with myself. I mean that. I cannot wait for next week to be with you until 10am – I love that. So don’t think you are bothering me, I love it.”

…though if honestly and humbly made an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.

Q7. What do you want? Write from your heart.

Q8. Trust and Rely meeting on Friday at 12 noon

Stephanie: I really encourage you to come to the Trust & Rely meeting and if you cannot come live go to the recording and do what we are doing live – learn to write from your Higher Power and God.

That is the way we get well. We get honest with ourselves. We see who we are. We are really very beautiful people, but we won’t even appreciate ourselves if we don’t get to know ourselves.

The Trust & Rely meeting is really where this is all leading to. It is everything I got out of doing the Big Book process. I read something then I ask my Higher Power: “What do you want me to know about this? Then I write. It is not even me writing. It is my Higher Power writing through me. I then meditate and get even more. Meditating gives God more of a vehicle to talk to me and guide me. This is the whole purpose of doing the Big Book process: to really let your Higher Power guide your every step.

Ends.