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(week 112) Feb 20 2014 12-step Big Book Workshop
AA 12 x 12 Step 2 page 31, from the start of the paragraph:
�When we encountered AA, the fallacy of our defiance was revealed…�
until �We saw them meet and transcend their other pains and trials.�
At the start of the previous paragraph:
�As psychiatrists have often observed, defiance is the outstanding characteristic of many an alcoholic.�
Write your name above the words �an alcoholic�.
When we encountered AA, the fallacy of our defiance was revealed.
Write the word �lie� above the word �fallacy�.
look up: fallacy, defiance, reliance, transcend.
When we encountered AA, the fallacy of our defiance was revealed.
Q1. Define what they are talking about.
At no time had we asked what God�s will was for us
Q2a. Has the truth of your defiance been revealed?
b) If so, are you still acting in a defiant way?
Q3a. This week did you deny that you were at the end of yourself?
b) What did you try to control this week knowing you had no control?
Q4. How did it work for you taking back your will instead of asking for God�s will?
Take it to meditation and then write on it.
At no time had we asked what God�s will was for us; instead we had been telling Him what it ought to be.
Q5. This week how many of you told God how it ought to be? How many of you shook your fist at God, were mad at God?
Q6. No man [or woman], we saw, could believe in God and defy Him too.
Write on this.
Thy will not mine be done.
Q7. In meditation you are invited to be reliant, which is recovery, and the opposite of defiance which is being in the disease. In meditation ask how you can be more reliant on the Higher Power of your understanding.
(week 111) 13 February 2014 12-step Big Book study workshop
AA 12 x 12 Step 2 page 3, the entire paragraph which starts with:
‘As psychiatrists have often observed, defiance is the outstanding characteristic of many an alcoholic…’’ ending with ‘Damn this faith business!’ we said.
A member kindly shared the above website which publishes a book where every sentence in the Big Book (pp.1-164) and the 12 x 12 is indexed alphabetically.
The God of my understanding.
This Big Book study workshop is a 12-step group, not a religious group. Stephanie would like us to use the words ‘the God of my understanding’ when sharing. This is not disrespectful. We leave the naming our God to outside of the rooms because we want unity and we cannot have one group calling God one thing and another group calling God another. She accepts all of us wherever we are and wants us all to allow others the dignity of finding their God as we allowed her the dignity to find her’s.
look up: defiance.
The Set Aside prayer is probably the most important of prayers.
Q1. Are you willing to put aside everything you think you know about yourself, about your life, about the influence your past life has had on you today and the God of your understanding? Are you willing to live in this moment with a changed attitude?
Q2. If you do not have joy peace and serenity, there is a lie you are telling yourself.
What is the lie you are telling yourself?
‘…defiance is the outstanding characteristic of many an alcoholic’.
Q3. Write on this sentence.
a) Are you defying God right now with your attitude? a.Are you defying God with your attitude of phony respectability?
So it’s not strange that lots of us have had our day at defying God Himself. Sometimes it’s because God has not delivered us the good things of life which we specified, as a greedy child makes an impossible list for Santa Claus.
Q4. Is that what you are bringing into your Quiet Time?
Self-righteousness, the very thing that we had contemptuously condemned in others, was our own besetting evil. This phony form of respectability was our undoing.’
Q5. Are you going to God with a list, maybe even unconsciously, because you deserve it? [‘I deserve it, I deserve it,’ rather than ‘thank you, thank you.’]
Q6. Turn around each of the sentences below and ask yourself: Am I doing this?
a.More often, though, we had met up with some major calamity, and to our way of thinking lost out because God deserted us.
b) The girl we wanted to marry had other notions; we prayed God that she’d change her mind, but she didn’t.
c) We prayed for healthy children, and were presented with sick ones, or none at all.
d) We prayed for promotions at business, and none came.
d) Loved ones, upon which we heartily depended, were taken from us by so-called ‘acts of God.’
e) Then we became alcoholics, and asked God to stop that. But nothing happened. This was the unkindest cut of all. Damn this faith business!” we said.
- Does it mean you want to do your Quiet Time?
- Does it mean when you walk near the street of addiction, you will ask God for help?
- What do you think about that?
- Do you think that everybody is able to get faith?
- How would you talk to someone who is totally clueless, about your faith and how you use it in recovery?
- how does that parallel that I need to work with God and do what I can where I can?
- Where are you going to get the wisdom?
(week 106) 9th of January 2014 Big Book Step Study Workshop
AA 12&12 p. 28 middle of para 2: “The roadblocks of indifference, fancied self-sufficiency, prejudice, and defiance…” Until
IF YOU ARE SOMEONE WHO RECOGNIZES THEY NEED GUIDANCE, IT WOULD PUT A MONKEY-WRENCH INTO THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER
(week 105) 2nd January 2014 12 Step Study Big Book Workshop
12 x 12 page 28. ‘Consider next the plight of those who once had faith…’ until line 6 of page 29 ‘He is the bewildered one.’
Are you willing to have love and tolerance and have a daily Quiet Time?
Resentment is the No. 1 reason we go back to our drugs and the No 1 robber of the joy of sobriety.
The antidote to resentment is love and tolerance of others through having healthy boundaries.
Boundaries are for the specific reason of keeping you from hurting others. Radical!
Q1 Are you excited about this coming year and what your Higher Power and your recovery in this Big Book study is going to bring?
Page 21: Who cares to admit complete defeat?
Q2. Do you care to admit complete defeat?
b) In what areas?
Q3 Who do you have in your life as accountability partner?
b) Are they willing to tell you that you are playing God in your own life?
c) Will they guide you to stop being agnostic and aesthetic?
Q5 Write on the four road blocks of indifference, self-sufficiency, prejudiced, defiance.
Q6. What’s your opinion of Quiet Time?
Are you indifferent? Do you have a self-sufficiency?