Recording for November 27, 2014

(week 152) 27 Nov 2014 12 Step Study Big Book Workshop

Stephanie has two groups both on the same number: 712 432 8816 pin no. 32450#

They also have the same callback number 641 715-3900 – but different pin numbers:

(1) Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin no. 298913#

(2) Thursday 8am EST 12 Step Study (All Addictions) Big Book Workshop pin no. 95666#

Open Study Buddy Groups 712 432 0800 pin no. 587213#

Thursdays EST 9.30am Sundays EST 11-12am

Please send donations to support the website to:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

[Christmas Day: summary of Step 2. New Year’s Day: summary of Step 3]

Next Thursday (Dec 4) End of Tradition 3 and preparation for starting Step 4.

Step 1:

“We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – and our lives had become unmanageable.”

SOUL WORK

Q1 When your mind and body are in a hopeless and powerless state how are you going to:

a) make rational healthy decisions for you and your family?

b) work and be a decent worker?

c) help another person in your step one fellowship?

d) How can the life of an addict not be unmanageable when the mind cannot think straight and the addicted body is calling all the shots?

e) How are you going to live a manageable life?

Q2. There is power in admitting we are powerless. Meditate and write on this.

Recording for Thursday, November 20, 2014

(week 151) 20 November 2014 12 step Big Book all addictions workshop

12 x 12 Step 3 Page 40 first paragraph: ‘Then it is explained…’ until the end of the step:
‘Thy will, not mine, be done.’

Please send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has two groups both on the same number: 712 432 8816 pin no. 32450#
They also have the same callback number 641 715-3900 – but different pin numbers:
(1) Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin no. 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST 12 Step Study (All Addictions) Big Book Workshop pin no. 95666#

Open Study Buddy Groups 712 432 0800 pin no. 587213#
Thursdays EST 9.30am Sundays EST 11-12am

Step 3.
A really good working definition of Step three is making a decision to align our will with God’s will.
If without Quiet Time you don’t know God are you going you align yourself with God? Of course not. Instead you will go back to aligning yourself with yourself.

******Stephanie will do a workshop next week, Thanksgiving. It will be her Thanksgiving gift to us-
a 1 hour REVIEW from 8a-9a EST of Steps 1, 2, and 3.

Don’t be concerned if you can’t make it next week; Stephanie understands completely. You can listen to the callback.

The following week, we’ll wrap up Tradition 3, God Willing. Then there will be some preliminary information Stephanie will give us right before starting Step Four, in approximately 3 weeks.

So keep collecting your writing supplies for Step Four- in a (suggestion:) designated nice, quiet writing area with a strong lamp. And make sure you know the 3rd Step prayer, or your version of the 3rd Step prayer ( you can rewrite it any way you want), because it’s very, very important to invite your HP to come in to your recovery. You need power! (We didn’t have power before we came to live the sober life; we admitted we were powerless in Step One.)

And, with Stephanie as sponsor, nobody does any Step 4 writing without first saying their Third Step prayer. And, if one has to interrupt their writing, one should say the 3rd Step prayer again before resuming- since the sacred bond established between ourselves and our HP has been disrupted.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.
This week: Find the handout on the 12 steps and their principles.
[Each principle has a step. thus Step one surrender, Step two hope, etc.]

Soul work

Look up: sustained

Q1. Human will is of huge value in sobriety. Write on this.

Aligning yourself to God is an act of human will. So ask God: ‘Can you show me what is the next right action’ – and God will. .
To not be a lone wolf, an individual needs:
a. a Higher Power
b. an action plan given by God and then accountability around the action plan.
c. a support group.

Q2. Without accountability, an action plan is self-abuse. Write on this.

Q3. If you are a lone wolf you’re still active even if you are sober in your program.
Write about this.

‘All by himself and in the light of his own circumstances, he needs to develop the quality of willingness. When he acquires willingness, he is the only one who can make the decision to exert himself.’
Q4. What do you understand by this?

Q5. It is when we try to make our will conform with God’s that we begin to use it rightly. (The key to sobriety). Write on this.

Q6. Feelings are not facts and no longer run Stephanie’s life. How about you?

Courage to change the things I can.
Q7. What does Courage mean to you?

Q8) What does wisdom mean to you? [To Stephanie it means she’s brought the situation in question to God and she has the solution and Action Plan. Then, of course, she has to align her will with God’s will – even if she doesn’t always feel like doing the answer she gets from God. And then, of course, she has to DO the (next) wise thing (action).]

Q9. Step 4
a) If you haven’t yet memorized the Third Step prayer or your version of it, that is your major soul work for the next two weeks.
b) In preparation for writing Step 4, find a good lamp and a comfortable chair. There needs to be a de-cluttered space – this writing is sacred work.

Ends

Recording for November 13, 2014

(week 150) 13 Nov 2014 12step study big book workshop

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has two groups both on the same number: 712 432 8816 pin no. 32450#
They also have the same callback number 641 715-3900 – but different pin numbers:
(1) Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin no. 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST 12 Step Study (All Addictions) Big Book Workshop pin no. 95666#

Open Study Buddy Groups 712 432 0800 pin no. 587213#
Thursdays EST 9.30am Sundays EST 11-12am

IMPORTANT:
As of now Stephanie recommends you keep your private buddyships purely for your Fourth Step work.
A buddy is to witness what a person has learnt through doing these steps. They make no comment only: ‘Thank you for sharing,’ or: ‘I witness what you have read’.
No cross talk which is telling others what to do.

Today’s reading:
AA 12&12 Tradition Three top p. 139 – ’till end of top paragraph p. 141:
“The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking. ….Could any then imagine a society which would include every conceivable kind of character, and cut across every barrier of race, creed, politics, and language with ease?”

Soul work

look up: harrowing.

Q1 (a) ‘In my buddy group I will only say: I will witness your work. Thank you’. Write on that.
(b) ‘If you are into the problem, you can’t be into the solution’. Write on that.

Q2. Do you have anxiety and fear when people that don’t look and sound like you come into your step one fellowship? Do you go over and introduce yourself?

a) What do you do if they bring in new ideas?

b) Do you go to your Higher Power? To your mentor?

c) Do you dig into the traditions?

d) Do you call Central Service?

e) Do you call a business meeting and discuss it to let the group conscience decide whether the new ideas are appropriate for your group?

[You now have an action plan so will never again have to live in anxiety and fear when new people come into the group].

Q3. If you are have an action plan you are no longer a victim. Write on this.
[Being a victim brings anxiety and fear which an action plan brings you out of – a summary of the whole fourth step process].

‘Yes, we were intolerant?’
Q4 Are you intolerant? If so, what do you do?

Q5. ‘After all, isn’t fear the true basis of intolerance?’
Write on this.
[Intolerance comes from being fearful and when fearful you are a victim of yourself.
When you have an action plan you no longer victimize yourself] .

Q6. FEAR: Face Everything And Recover (with God).
Write on this.
[Face everything means you may still stay in the problem. Recovery is having an action plan].

Q7. ‘Could we then foresee that troublesome people were to become our principle teachers of patience and tolerance?’ Write on this.

Recording For November 6, 2014

(week 149) 6 November 2014 12-step study Big Book Step Workshop

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has two groups both on the same number: 712 432 8816 pin no. 32450#
They also have the same callback number 641 715-3900 – but different pin numbers:
(1) Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin no. 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST 12 Step Study (All Addictions) Big Book Workshop pin no. 95666#

NOTE: THE TRUST & RELY NOON FRIDAY MEETING IS NO LONGER RUNNING.

Buddy Group: 712 432 0800 Buddy Group pin no. 587213#
Support the Buddy Group. When you go with the attitude what can I contribute without expect anything in return then you are really recovered. In recovery we give what we have, we give it gratefully and to anybody who needs it. The gift is that when you give abundantly you get so much joy. Its a wonderful way of life. If you want a buddy or to be a buddy: write to sue7263@aol.com

SOUL WORK

Today’s reading:
AA 12 & 12 para 1: “Then it is explained that other Steps of the A.A. program can be practiced with success only when Step Three is given a determined and persistent trial. … ’til end of p. 41:
“In all times of emotional disturbance or indecision, we can pause, ask for quiet, and in the stillness simply say: “God grant me the serenity … Thy will, not mine, be done.”

Q(1) Do you really want to get well? Go into your core; go into meditation on this.
Some people don’t really want to get well. They like the excuse: ‘this is my behavior because I’m an addict!’. But recovered doesn’t mean stopping being an addict. It means (1) my mind and (2) my actions are not crazy; they are disciplined and checked out with my HP and evenly-yoked mentors.

Q(2) Are you willing to know what you have to do so you can compromise (be negotiable) with other people but still have and get done what you have to?

Going to God and not to our egos:
It takes an act of self-will to align our egos with God’s Will.
Ego can be very, very defeating with our relationships. But, with our self-will, we can tone our ego down and use persistence and determination to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God.

Q3 Do you really want to be successful in step four and that you have thoroughly cleaned house? Go to the core of this in meditation.
[Some addicts say they want to get well but down deep they don’t. They go around with the attitude of: I am an addict so you had better just excuse my behaviour. When you do the Big Book step study process you lose your excuse of not knowing. While you are still an addict, when recovered the mind and actions are not crazy. They are disciplined. They are checked out with a higher power and evenly yoked mentors].

Q4. Are you really willing to not have your own way?

Q5. Are you willing to go to God rather than using self-will and your ego to run things?
b) Are you willing to hand over all areas of your life to God: relationships, work, home, health, finances etc.?
c) If not, what areas do you still want to hold onto? What are your fears about handing them over?

Q6. Explore how you can use your self-will for positive or negative.

Q7. Are you convinced that you need the third step in every area of your life: recovery, work, parenting, sponsoring, romantic/platonic relationships, etc?

Q8. What in this week did you take charge of instead of working the third step?
If you went to to God for everything, talk about the success – it is way more important.
[You get recovered by accentuating what you do right. Stephanie got clean with her food by focusing on what she had achieved and replacing negative with positive talk].

Q9. Do you trust the God of your understanding to take care of you as you prepare to embark on step four and lay yourself bare, looking at your own selfishness and self-centredness? Are you willing?

Q10. Get yourself evenly yoked with like-minded people who will guide you with no judgement.
If you need practical help with structure for your Quiet Time go to the recordings of the Trust and Rely workshop: 12stepstudyworkshop.com.

Write down: FEAR: Face Everything (with God ) and Recover..

Q11. How many times a day are you willing to do the third step and turn something over and not have your own way?

When he acquires willingness, he is the only one who can make the decision to exert himself.
Q12. Are you willing to let God take over your thoughts and your actions?

Underline: ‘trying to do this is an act of will’

Above the word: ‘exertion’ write ‘self-will.’

Q13. Write down: We trust to God’s will.
Spend a couple of days of Quiet Time reflecting on this.

‘Trust’ is the biggest word in recovery
Q14a). Do you trust the recovery process?
b) Do you trust your God?
c) Do you trust your evenly yoked mentor? Stephanie?
d) Do you trust the group and your buddy/buddy group to God’s will?

Q15. The Serenity Prayer. Write on this as much as you want including taking it word by word. Also at: 12stepstudyworkshop.com there is an excellent Serenity Prayer handout.

Q16. Think about what it means to turn your thoughts and actions over to a Higher Power. [For Stephanie it means the greatest life ever which she would not give up for anything.]

Q Stephanie urges us to:
Q17. ‘Call one another. Your sisters doing this process are more important than I am.’

Ends

Recording for October 30, 2014

(week 148) Oct 30 2014 12-step study Big Book workshop

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has two groups both on the same number: 712 432 8816 pin no. 32450#
They also have the same callback number 641 715-3900 – but different pin numbers:
(1) Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin no. 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST 12 Step Study (All Addictions) Big Book Workshop pin no. 95666#
*The Friday 12n EST Trust & Rely Workshop is cancelled for now due to lack of participation and leaders’ lives becoming full.

*No abstinence or sobriety requirements necessary here. No requirements- just suit up & show up!

* Shares are only recorded on the callback( which gets taken down after 7 days and is not archived), not on the website. If you wish not to be recorded, do not state your name.

*At the writing of the 4th Step, Stephanie will give us a total of 15 resentments to write about:
-5 of people, places, or institutions
-5 fears
-5 resentments on sex relations
If we want to write more, of course we may.

AA 12 &12 top of p. 39: ‘So how exactly can the willing person…’ until top of p. 40
‘…as a way of life can bring the much-desired result.’

If you have not yet got a buddy, e-mail: sue7263@aol.com.

Print out the handout on the directions for resentment that Sue sent out this week. Buy a two-three inch deep 3-ring punch binder and put it in there.

Soul work

Look up : bitterness, broods, victimized.

Q1. Are you willing to turn your will and your life over to a Higher Power?

Q2. Are you convinced that you have more problems than your addictions?

Q3. Have you come to the realization that there are some problems in life you really can overcome by personal determination and courage?

Q4a).What situation(s) in your life is not budging even though you have put into it all the determination, self-will and courage?

b) Or who is not budging: son, father, wife, partner, boss, co-worker, etc.?

c) When you get to the end of yourself, what are you going to do?

Above the word budge, write ‘change’.

Q5. Ask yourself, am I desperately unhappy about anything? Write it down.

Q6. Go to an Al-Anon meeting.
Listen to the Al-Anon philosophy of detachment, live and let live. They have sobriety, are detached and living a) b) and c) of the Big Book.
Then listen to the people who are trying to cajole, push, pull etc. do they have joy in their lives? [This is rich material for us to really do even before we get to the fourth step].

Our friend is still victimized by remorse and guilt when he thinks of yesterday.
Q7.Write out the two types of being victimized.

Q8. Two questions to ask in Quiet Time:
a) If you went to a party, who would you not want to walk through the door?
b) How do you feel when somebody’s name comes up?

Q9a) Does your financial insecurity worry you?

b) Are you having panic attacks over anything?

Q10. Do you have anyone that you might have icky feelings about? If so tell your buddy. (It will make your 4th step list so much easier to write).

Fourth line of last paragraph on page 39: ‘Of course the sponsor points out…’
Underline sponsor [It is the first time the word ‘sponsor’ is used].

Ends

Recording for October 23, 2014

(week 147) 23 October 2014 12 Step Study Big Book workshop

12 x 12 Step 3
Today’s reading:
AA 12&12 p. 36 last line- thru top of p. 39 end of 1st line:
“But the moment our mental or emotional independence is in question, how differently we behave. …..Whether in Alaska or on the Salerno beachhead, their dependence upon a Higher Power worked. And far from being a weakness, this dependence was their chief source of strength.”

Soul work

Look up: self-sufficiency.

Q1. How is it working for you?

Q2. When checking out new people to trust, take it slowly. Share a little and check to see what comes back. Then share a little more and again see if you like what comes back. Practice it this week and then write on how it went. How did it made you feel, taking a bit of a risk, trusting somebody?

This brave philosophy, wherein each man plays God, sounds good in the speaking but it still has to meet the acid test: how well does it actually work?

Q3. What do you want to do with your will power? Do you want to align it with the will of your Higher Power?

Q4. Good questions to bring to God:

a) Why do I need you God?
b) How well does my playing God actually work?

Q6a) Do you know any normal people?

b) Do you know people living on self-sufficiency?

Everywhere he sees people filled with anger and fear society breaking up into warring fragments. Each fragment says to the others, ‘“We are right and you are wrong.”

Q7a) Are you filled with anger and fear?

b) Are you part of society that is warring with other parts of society or are you disagreeing with certain things in our society, being able to accept them while not accepting the way someone thinks?

c) Who is showing that in your life?

d) You (put your name here) are right, they are wrong. How are you going to handle it?

Q8. Write on the slogan: Let go and let God or be dragged.

We realize that the word “dependence” is as distasteful to many psychiatrists and psychologists as it is to alcoholics. Like our professional friends we too are aware that there are wrong forms of dependence. We have experienced many of them.

Q9. Write about faulty dependence.
a. Whom do you have a faulty dependence upon?

b. If you don’t have a faulty dependence, write about how you were able to get out of that faulty dependence and into a healthy dependence upon your higher power and into trusting relationships.

Dependence on an AA group or a sponsor means you are on b) This is OK for awhile. Then need to go down to a higher power to c).
Q10. Are you in a) b) or c)?

“When World War II broke out, this spiritual principle had its first major test. …. Would they be able to …stand up under fire…?”
Q(11 ‘Under fire’ – are you under fire, under stress right now? How did you handle it?
Did you hunker down and go to God? Or did you go to faulty dependence? Or your addiction?

Recording for October 16, 2014

(week 14 6) 16 October 2014 12-step Big Book workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime

Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running on the same no: 712 432 8816 pin no. 32450#

and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900

(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12 Step Study Workshop pin 95666# (All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12noon EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

12 x 12 Step 3 page 37 paragraph beginning: ‘But the moment our mental or emotional…’

until end of next paragraph ‘…it is a bone-crushing juggernaut whose final achievement is ruin.’

Soul work

Look up: self-sufficiency.

Q1. Search out one or two people whom you really trust and respect. Maybe somebody that you have listened to and are on the same page spiritually. Perhaps a pastor, rabbi or somebody associated with your congregation, priest, minister, counselor. So that if you really had to make a big life decision and you feel you have heard from God that you can run it by these one or two and feel comfortable.

Q2. The other assignment in readiness for writing step four is to go the website 12stepstudyworkshop.com

Go to ‘Handouts’, find the fourth step instructions and worksheets. Make four or five copies of the instructions and 50 copies of the format and put them in your three-ring binder. Also get some filler paper.

Q3.How is it working for you, being your own authority figure?

Everywhere he sees people filled with anger and fear, society breaking up into warring fragments. Each fragment says to the others,”We are right and you are wrong.”

Q4. Are you filled with anger and fear? Are you, in your mind, breaking up into warring fragments?

Ends

Recording for October 9. 2014

(week 145) 9 October 2014 12-step Study Big Book workshop

Step 3 12 x 12 Page 35. Start of second paragraph:’Maybe this all sounds mysterious…’
until page 37 end of paragraph: ‘One good look in the mirror ought to be answer enough for any alcoholic.

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime
Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running on this same number: 712 432 8816 and pin no.: 32450#
and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900
(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12 Step Study Workshop pin 95666# (All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12noon EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Soul work

Serenity Prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Thy will not mine be done. Amen.
“Go to quiet time and ask God ‘what do You want me to do about this issue?’ Do the third step prayer, write about it, then share with another person.”

Look up: wisdom. The wisdom to know what to expect and what to change.

Q1 Examine your areas of dependence.

Q2. Look at your idea of this dependence. They are different.

Q3. Have an action plan to go to God with for next week asking God: ‘I know I have a dependency I am asking you to give me a conscious contact with myself on where I have unconscious dependence.’ It will shock you. When you sincerely ask God in Quiet Time to give you something you will get it.

[Remember the truth will set you free but first it will make you very angry.
Pick your accountability people very, very carefully. Be selective. You do not want to be isolated with your own thoughts. Don’t dismiss anyone. Get phone numbers of those who are saying recovered things. They can really give you unbiased recovered God-honouring feedback. We never tell each other what to do but we can give each other feedback.]

Q4 Lets get out of our own little world and think about our brothers and sisters in other countries and their dependences. Different from America. Living in such a wonderful country we really don’t have to worry about things.‘Concerned’ is a better word. Concerned about others. A beautiful way to live. If you worry why pray?

But the moment our mental or emotional dependence is in question how differently we behave. How persistently we claim the right to decide all by ourselves just what we shall think and just how we shall act. Oh yes, we’ll weigh the pros and cons of very problem. We’ll listen politely to those who would advise us, but all the decisions are to be ours alone. Nobody is going to meddle with our personal independence in such matters. Besides, we think there is no one we can surely trust. We are certain that our intelligence, backed by will power, can rightly control our inner lives and guarantee us success in the world we live in. This brave philosophy, wherein each man plays God, sounds good in the speaking, but it still has to be meet the acid test how well does it actually work? One good look in the mirror ought to be answer enough for any alcoholic.

Q5. Can you claim the right to decide all by yourself how you should act?
b) How did it work for you?

Q6. Inventory yourself.
a) How are you making a decision to think and act?
b) Are you self-willed?
c) Are you asking God to use your will and align it with His will so you are making decisions with what you know your Higher Power wants you to do and then having an Action Plan using your will with the plan?
That is Stephanie’s understanding of step 3: “It can all be boiled down to that.”

Q7. That’s the Third Step. Are you there?
If not come to Tuesdays Dr Bob and the Good Old timers and after the meeting and you can ask any questions you want.

Step Four:
To write Step Four you will need to be Honest Open and Willing. It takes an iron-clad self-will to sit down and write a fourth step. We are going to be answering hard questions such as where are you selfish? What did you want from this person? We don’t look at this very often. It is very pointed and doesn’t beat around the bush. Then you have to talk about what you want and dig even deeper and find out why you wanted it. This is not the normal way of looking at decisions in our culture.

ENDS

Recording for October 2, 2014

BB Step Study Soulwork #144 October 2nd 2014
(Page 35, middle of the page, to mid page 36).

Instruction for our writing “It’s very simple. We complicate everything.” Use a timer, do quiet time before we pick up the pencil when we do the 4th Step, and although we will want to rake the yard and clean out the cellar,

STAY there for the amount of time we have chosen, and do the work. It will simplify our thoughts and our lives.

1. Look up: non entity; egotism.

2. Read Step One in the 12 & 12.

3. Read top paragraph of page 36. Then study the sentence which Stephanie says is vital: “This, of course, is the process…development.”

4. Read again page 6) in the Big Book, on going from a to b.

“Ego: Lots of pride, Low Tolerance for Others’ Opinion”.

5. Read “Spiritual Experience (page 567) in the back of the Big Book, taking special note of quotes, including the quotation by Herbert Spencer at the bottom of the page.

Recording for September 25, 2014

(week 143) 26 September 2014 12 Step Study Big Book Workshop

www.AA.org This has the Big Book and AA Reflections read at the Friday noontime
Trust & Rely meeting.

12stepstudyworkshop.com has all the handouts and accumulated knowledge of Stephanie’s studies of the Big Book.

Please send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358

Stephanie has three groups running with the same number: 712 432 8816
and with the same callback number: 641 715-3900
(1)Tuesday 8am EST Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers pin 298913#
(2) Thursday 8am EST Big Book 12 Step Study Workshop pin 95666# (All Addictions)
(3) Friday 12noon EST Trust and Rely Workshop pin 91904#

Step 3:
‘Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.’
AA 12 x 12 page 36:entire first paragraph starting: ‘To every worldly and practical-minded beginner…’

Soul work

Q1. Have you made a decision to turn your life and your thoughts over to the care of God as you understood him?
b) Have you made that decision today?

Reaffirm this decision EVERY DAY if not stuck in the A and B of the Big Book on Page 60.

c) Have you made one big ‘Yes’ you are going to run my life! And then every day reaffirm that? If you have, then you have taken a third step. If not are probably stuck on a) or b) in the Big Book (page 60) .

Q2. Honestly where are you? (If you are not honest with yourself you cannot get well).
b) Have you made a decision today?

To every worldly and practical-minded beginner, this step looks hard, even impossible.
Q3. Are you a worldly person or a practically minded person and turning your thoughts and your actions to a God that you cannot see and touch and feel looks hard or even impossible?

Q4. Write this down:
If a situation brings you to your knees it has accomplished it’s purpose.

No matter how much one wishes to try, exactly how can he turn his own will and his own life over to the care of whatever God he thinks there is?

Q5. Nothing is impossible with God. Write on that.
b) What do you think is impossible for God? Write about this and bring it to your Quiet Time every day. [Stephanie doesn’t think anything is impossible for God and no longer questions anything].

Q6. Write your step three journey [Stephanie told you hers. She is always in step three as there is always more commitment, willingness, openness and honesty. It grows].
Must be OPEN MINDED and have WILLINGNESS to change THOUGHTS and
ACTIONS (turn thoughts and actions over to God) and do what Higher
Power is leading you to do.

Bill is giving us a promise here.
Fortunately we who have tried it and with equal misgivings, can testify that anyone, anyone at all, can begin to do it.
Q6. Look up misgivings.

Q7. Ask others about their walk with step three.
If people say they never had a misgiving, take them back. Something brought them to a rock solid belief in God. Hearing others’ stories is always a gift and a miracle. Seeking God is hearing another’s story and identifying.

If it doesn’t have my name on it is none of my business. Indeed anything beyond the tip of my nose is not my business. It is me and God. That’s why we need Quiet Time.

Q8. Trust & Rely Workshop
Stephanie is challenging you: if you are feeling frustrated because you are not hearing God, do this Trust & Rely format for 12 weeks. You need the format to learn to access listening to God.
a) Read the day’s entry from AA Reflections Book, three times asking your Higher Power: ‘what do you want me to get out of this?’
b) Write for 10 minutes (start with a minimum of five if writing is hard for you)
c) Then ask: God/HP what do you want me to meditate on? and when your mind starts wandering bring it back to that word or phrase.
d) Suggest you find somebody whom it is safe to read it to so you get practice at turning your life and your will over to the care of another.
It is a skill which takes willingness to be willing.

Re. Step 3: Be specific and ask God:
‘What does it (step three) look like for today, at work, in my recovery, in my food plan?’

Another promise:
We can further add that beginning even the smallest is all that is needed.

Step Three is the trampoline into the rest of the steps. It will jump you right into being willing to look at yourself and stop pointing fingers.
Never judge anybody. And if somebody judges us, know that 99% of people’s prejudice is they just haven’t been given the information. The Big Book says, ‘ignorance is prejudice prior to investigation.’ People think they know, but they don’t. Our job as recovered addicts is when we can we educate that there is another beautiful way of life, non-guilty, self-forgiving and getting on with helping others. We are so much more alike than different. And we in recovery can bridge the gap, just put it out there in a non-threatening and caring loving way. If people pick it up they pick it up. And they may file it away.

Q9.Write this down: It takes time to learn to turn things over.
Stephanie says: ‘I was not made well 16 years ago, but I was put on the road to becoming well to connect to God.’

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