Recording for April 17, 2014

(week120)  17 April 2014  12 step study workshop
AA 12 x 12 Tradition 2.
For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority- a loving God as He may express himself in our group conscience.  Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
Bottom of page 134 paragraph beginning: ‘This brings us to the question….’ until the end of the tradition.
Soul work
look up: “connives”
The bleeding deacon is one just as surely convinced that the group cannot get along without him, who constantly connives for re-election to office, and who continues to be consumed with self-pity.
Q1a) Write on principles above personalities what does that mean?
b) When you bump into someone’s controlling personality how do you become a Good Orderly Directed member of the group?
c)  Do you constantly connive power or re-election to office and continue to be consumed with self, self, self?
Happily, most of them survive and live to become elder statesmen. They become the real and permanent leadership of AA. Theirs is the quiet opinion, the sure knowledge and humble example that resolves a crisis.
These people sit at the back and pray and wait to be asked. And when they are asked they have wisdom and don’t go on for ages especially about the ‘good old days’, it is the here and now that matters.
Q2. Are you an elder statesman yet? 
  1. Are you praying? 
c) Are you reading and studying and digging deep to learn wisdom? Or is it all about you, getting your own comfort, trying to get your own way, manipulate people?
Circle words in bold:
This is the experience which has led us to the conclusion that our group conscience, 
well-advised by its elders, will be in the long run wiser than any leader.
Next week back to the Big Book and starting step three.
We need a group of god-honoring people in our lives. People who are in recovery and who love us enough to tell us, no, that is not a good idea. Anyone who has themselves as a sponsor has a fool for a sponsor.  We need accountability because we can lie to ourselves – denial and rationality – due to our selfishness and self-centredness.
NOTE: Write this down:
When you don’t know what to do.  
Sit down and use your own wisdom. Make sure you are in a quiet environment then on the right-hand side of the page write down your experience strength and hope on the subject.  
Then empty your head and go to God: I am clueless I have this this and this. I am going to go to you. Listen to God and write down on the left hand side anything that comes to you.
Then go to recovered godly people and run it by them before you make a major decision. (It does not have to be whether or not you buy or sell your house). This week practice this way and write down what they say on the left hand side of the page.
Then wait a few days and return to back to Quiet Time: ‘I am clueless I have all this but I want your input God.’ 
Be sure to go to godly people as others may urge you to  take care of No 1. No 1 will never be taken care of. You do God’s will and you will be taken care of. That has been Stephanie’s experience after 36years of recovery. Thy will not mine be done.  It may not look as imagined, but it works out beautifully.

Recording for April 10, 2014

(week 120) 10 April 2014  12-step Study All Addictions Big Book Workshop
AA 12 x 12   Tradition 2.
“For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority – a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.”
From page 133  ‘The founder and his friends channel spirituality to newcomers…’ until end of paragraph on page 134: ‘…Thus throughout A.A. does the group conscience decree the terms upon which its leaders shall serve.’
Send donations to support the website to:
Stephanie Whiting
P.O. Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358
Recently Stephanie paid $900 to get an upgrade to the website.
The more powerful server will cost the group $100 month and the P.O. Box is $50 a year. Not too many other expenses.
Stephanie: ‘I really recommend that you use the website. The group pays for it and I think its pretty good. Have dedicated team of volunteers. On occasion we have paid our webmaster but the majority of the time she does it for free. We’re paying for the storage so if you want to go back and listen to the two years of steps 1 and 2, all the questions, it is all there. Really a remarkable website. Not blowing my own horn as nothing to do with it. It is Linda and Jen and all the others they have trained who can take the credit, not me.
‘Thank you Leslie for stepping up and helping Ashira.’
Soul work
Q1. What was the last thing you did in service?
What was your true motivation:
a) to get a little glory?
b) were you really doing it for your Higher Power?
Q2. ‘When I start thinking I know how things should be run, I am playing God.  
Do you agree with this?
Q3a With your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/children/colleagues, etc. are you
a) trying to have a firm hand of control?
b) trying to have healthy boundaries?
c) Do you know the difference?
Q4. Re-read the paragraph beginning: ‘The founder and his friends’ 
a) Do you see yourself in this? 
b) If you don’t see yourself today can you relate to this in your past?
Q5. In no sense whatever can we govern or direct anyone. We are servants. 
Write on this from your relationships with husband/wife/work colleagues/boss/children/neighbor etc. 
Q6. ’These are universal experiences’. What does that mean? 
[Take it out of our 12-step groups and bring it into every area, family, work, etc.]

Recording For April 3, 2014

(week 118) 3 April 2014  12-step All Addictions Big Book Study Workshop

12 x 12 Tradition 2 Page 132:

“For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority – a loving God as He may express Himself in our Group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants, they do not govern.”
From the start of the tradition until page 133 third paragraph: ‘…Being on the human side, the founder and his friends may bask a little in glory.’
Soul work
Look up:  vague, nebulous naive, speculative, ethical.
Q1.  Read some AA history by Googling it.
2nd paragraph page 133 circle: ‘freely given’.
Q2. What is your attitude on sharing (breaking your anonymity)  wherever you go?
Do you feel you have a spiritual and ethical obligation to help others – whether at work, family, church, extended family, in-laws, etc.?
Q3. Are you prejudiced towards those who have the same problems that you have recovered from while they have not?
write this down: They’re just like me.
In the paragraph beginning: ‘John Doe, a good AA…’, circle: 
He needs other alcoholics as much as they need him.’
Q4a. Draw the recovery triangle and review what it means to you. 
b) Beside it draw the circle and write what that means to you. 
c) Put them together and write on how the symbol of the triangle in the circle is truly your life-giving foundation in recovery. 
To keep in mind that God is the one who keeps us all going, 
put a copy of the symbol and your explanation in both your Big Book and 12 x 12. 
underline: ‘hierarchy of service – self-appointed, of course…’
Q5. ‘Being on the human side, the founder and his friends may bask a little in glory.’
  1. What does that mean to you? 
  2. Have you had that experience and been able to see how dangerous it is?
  3. Do you know it really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the other person’s Higher Power and where that person is in their recovery and what they need? 


Recording for March 27, 2013

(week 117)

27 March 2014 12-step Study Big Book Workshop

Tradition Two in  AA 12 x 12 page 116.

‘For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority – a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.’
Callback no. 641 715 3900 pin no. 95666#

Open buddy groups: Thursday @ 9:30a with an Al-Anon perspective; Sundays @ 11am 12n EST (this group still needs support, the people already going are very committed and show up regularly.) 712 432 0800  pin no 587213#
Saturday at 12 noon EST, Trust & Rely group now has callback no.  641 715 3900 pin 97200#.  It is an open QT group where participants listen, write, meditate and read together.
All three groups are open – which means you can go anytime and everyone is welcome, as long as you’ve done your writing.

Study buddy coordinator Marie: 857 212 2926
If you need a buddy send your e-mail, phone number carrier and time zone to:
Stephanie suggests we have both a buddy group and an individual buddy as an insurance so we will never be without accountability.

div>Donations are needed for the website upkeep. Please send to:

Stephanie Whiting
PO Box 531
North Pembroke  MA 02358


Back-up Secretary
Stephanie suggests you pray about volunteering for this post. She explains: ‘Ashira and Angela urgently need someone to act as a back-up in case one or both of them are unavailable to take down the questions.   They send their work to Sue who in turn sends it out to each of you – a beautiful cycle of service. You only get out of your process what you put into it. Putting service into something ensures that you are going to get a lot out of it.’  
Any queries e-mail


look up: trusted, servant, govern.

Q1. How committed are you to your Big Book recovery and to the Big Book workshop group?  How willing are you to support your group and each other in this group?

>Q2. Who is your ultimate authority, i.e. who are you bowing down to? 

Is it your Higher Power, your sponsor or what your group dictates?

Q3. Are you going to group conscience business meetings?  
  1. If you see a person is controlling the group and/or group conscience are you bold enough to bring it up? 
  2. If you do not have free speech to talk about the God of your understanding are you bold enough to bring that up?

Q4. Are you disrespecting certain people in the group because: a) they don’t do things the way you do,  b) they don’t believe the way you do, c) you have reason to think they are not worthy of your time and energy. Write down: Take what you want and file the rest.    

Q5. What does ‘a loving God’ mean to you?

Q6.As the meeting chairperson and facilitator are you going in there as a trusted servant?

Q7. Are you trying to govern?