Recording For November 17, 2016

Week #255, November 17, 2016
AA 12 & 12, Step 9, pages 85-87
AA 12 & 12, Tradition 9, page 172

Look up: “forthright”

1) Are you delaying making amends because of fear? (page 87)
If yes, are you willing to take it to quiet time, bring it God, and write about it?
Expand on what your fear is.

2) Are you willing for the readiness to take the full consequences for your past acts?
a) How will you do this?
b) Are you willing to take responsibility for the well-being of others? (page 86, revealing harmful behaviors to others) TMI
c) How will you know when you are not acting for the well-being of others?

4) Write summary in your own words of “what the very spirit of Step 9” is (page 87, end of paragraph)
“…the readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time…”

Recording for November 10, 2016

12 & 12, Step 9, page 84, last paragraph

Look up: “prudence”

1) What is your attitude about breaking your anoniminity regarding being in the 12 Step program. Are you comfortable telling people?
Explore the reasons,because you are going to make a decision what you’ll say when you approach the person you are making amends to, and you need to be at peace with yourself.
1a) If so, why?
1b) If not, why?
No Judgements around this~its good to find out where you are at.

2a) In the atmosphere of approval, ar you apt to get thrown off balance?
2b) In the atmosphere of disapproval or criticism, are you apt to get thrown off balance?

3) Look at your motives: are you making amends for other people’s reactions to you, or are you doing it in sincerity, for rightness with yourself, God, and that other person within your own heart?

4) Are you resting on your own laurels (pg 85), or are you really living in steps 10, 11, and 12?
Search your own conscience, bring it to God, and write about it. (for those of us who have already gotten to steps 10, 11, and 12)

Apologize right away when you slip up~lot easier than dragging that baggage along with you.

Recording for October 20, 2016

Week #251
AA 12 & 12, Step 8, Page 81;
Tradition 8, page 166

1) Write on:
“We should ponder and weigh each instance carefully. We shall want to hold ourselves to the course of admitting the things we have done, meanwhile forgiving the wrongs done us, real or fancied. We should avoid extreme judgements, both of ourselves and of others involved. We must not exaggerate our defects or theirs.”
a) Are you doing Step 8?
b) If not, why not? Explain.
c) If you are, are you avoiding extreme judgements?
d) Are you exaggerating your own mistakes, or theirs?

2) Write on the last paragraph, page 82:
“Whenever our pencil falters, we can fortify and cheer ourselves by remembering what A.A. experience in this Step has meant to others.
It is the beginning of the end of isolation from our fellows and from God.

3) Continue to write out your cards and their contact info. Face to face is the best way, if not, phone, if not letter, if not e-mail.
If they don’t want to see you, stop.
If they don’t answer your phone call , try one more time.
Always ask permission.

Recording for October 13, 2016

(week 250) 13 October 2016 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

To join the members list, be sent the soul work and/or if you would like a buddy, contact:
sue7263@aol.com

8am EST Tuesdays workshop (same tel. no.) callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913#

Date for your diary: 8am EST Tuesday October 20 2016

The group will fulfill Stephanie’s long-held goal to study the end of the Big Book starting with:
To The Wives. “Please come and join us. I am going to do it the way I do the Big Book step study -paragraph
by paragraph and glean every ounce from the Big Book. So much more in there than just the steps. I believe it
will help every area of your life. “

If you would like to contact Stephanie:
stephaniew324@gmail.com

Please send donations towards the cost of the website to:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

or via Pay Pal on the website: 12stepstudyworkshop.com (click on Thursday).

AA 12 x 12 bottom of page 80

Soul work

look up:
miserly
irresponsible
callous
cold
irritable
critical
impatient
humourless
grace.

Ends

Recording For October 6, 2016

(week 249) 6 October 2016 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

Step 8:

Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. “

AA 12 x 12 Page 80

“…Since defective relations with other human beings have nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes, including our alcoholism, no field of investigation could yield more satisfying and valuable rewards than this one. “

Soul work
Insert ‘with God’ after the word ‘reflection.’ Calm, thoughtful reflection upon personal relations can deepen our insight.

look up:
instinct
collision
contemptuous
vengeful

Q1. Define ‘harm.’ How would you define: ‘hurt and harmed another person?’

Q2. Page 80, paragraph 2. How does Bill’s description of our defective relations to others match up with your own definition? Do you agree with ‘instincts in collision’?

Q3. Did your consistently bad temper arouse anger in others which you then blamed on them?

Q4a). Did you lie or cheat?

b) Do you see how this deprived others of not only their worldly goods but also their emotional security and peace of mind?

c) And why they would become contemptuous, vengeful and shout at you?
Then you made your resentment list for what they did. Can you see that.?

Q5. Contrast then with now. Where are you? Are you a patient person or do you arouse anger in others? Do you still lie and are thus not 100% honest about 100% of your life?
Do you try to cheat – getting more than what God wants you to have?

Q6. Do you take responsibility for being a person that does not give rise to emotional insecurity and hurting somebody’s peace of mind?

Write about then and now.

Stephanie gives us soul work so that we have something to write on 3 x 5 cards and bring to Quiet Time and work on with God and your accountability partner.

ends

Recording for September 29, 2016

(week 248) 29 September 2016 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions workshop

To join the members list, be sent the soul work and/or if you would like a buddy, contact:
sue7263@aol.com

8am EST Tuesdays workshop (same tel. no.) callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913#

Date for your diary: 8am EST Tuesday October 11 2016

The group will fulfill Stephanie’s long-held goal to study the end of the Big Book starting with:
To The Wives. She says: ‘We have had a beautiful very devoted group studying the biographies of Dr Bob and Bill W.. And I encourage you all to join us in this study of the Big Book.’

If you would like to contact Stephanie:
stephaniew324@gmail.com

Please send donations towards the cost of the website to.

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

or via Pay Pal on the website: 12stepstudyworkshop.com (click on Thursday).

A A 12 x 12 Step 8 Page 79.

Soul work

Look up: extricate

‘Since defective relations with other human beings has nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes, including our alcoholism, no field of investigation could yield more satisfying and valuable rewards than this one.’

Q1. Can you think of how this applies to you?
[All of our problems always boil down to how we were relating to others]

Q2. Go back to penultimate paragraph page 79 and write on the following:

a) ’This attitude, (that we never harmed anyone when drinking) is the end result of purposeful forgetting. It is an attitude which can only be changed by a deep and honest search of our motives and actions.’

b) Do we have the willingness to extricate from this search the amends we need to make?

c) Is it the case that these unresolved issues ‘…have actually given our emotions violent twists which have since discolored our personalities and altered our lives for the worse.’

ends