Recording For July 7, 2016

(week 235) 7 July 2016 12 Step Big Book All Addictions Workshop

To join the members list, be sent the soul work and/or if you would like a buddy, contact:
sue7263@aol.com

8am EST Tuesdays workshop (same tel. no.) studying Bill W’s biography ’Pass It On’ .
callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913#

If you would like to contact Stephanie
stephaniew324@gmail.com

Big Book: Steps 8 and 9.

From Page 76:3 ‘Now we need more action without which we find that “Faith without works is dead.”
until Page 77 line 14: ‘…He is going to be more interested in a demonstration of good will than in our talk of spiritual discoveries.’

Soul work

‘Now we go out to our fellows and repair the damage done in the past.’

Look up: repair

Q1. On page 76 near the end of the third paragraph in the margin alongside this sentence write: ‘God’
If we haven’t the will to do this, we ask until it comes.

Q2. ‘Our real purpose in making amends and living in recovery is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people about and around us.’
Write on this and share with your buddies.

Q3. Page 77, line 12: underline: set right the wrong
‘But our man is sure to be impressed with a sincere desire to set right the wrong.’

N.B. If we are prone to self-denigration remember ‘none of us are that good at being bad.’

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Recording For June 23, 2016

(week 233) 23 June 2016 12 Step Study All Addictions Big Book workshop

Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.”

To join the members list, be sent the soul work and/or if you would like a buddy, contact:
sue7263@aol.com

8am EST Tuesdays workshop (same tel. no.) studying Bill W’s biography ’Pass It On’ .
callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913#

If you would like to contact Stephanie
stephaniew324@gmail.com

Donations are urgently needed towards the cost of the website.

Please send to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

or via Pay Pal on the website: 12stepstudyworkshop.com (click on Thursday).

Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.”

Big Book page 76, beginning of third paragraph:

‘Now we need more action, without which we find that “Faith without works is dead.” Let’s look at Steps Eight and Nine. We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends. We made it when we took inventory. We subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal..”

12 x 12 Page 77. Step 8.

Soul work

Q1. Re-read your 4th step. And ask God: How did I hurt/harm this person? You see where you were selfish and how you acted out. You may have cut the person out of your life, been nasty and you may have gossiped. You will see whether you were dishonest, and your self-seeking behaviour – that is the harm right there.

Pray pray pray to have the right attitude to make these amends.

It is only by talking about specific issues that we get to the general principle.
In this case we go to the specific on the card and we get to the bigger principle.

Step 8 is all about coming into willingness to make amends to them all.

12 x 12 page 77: First paragraph page 77

Soul work:

We consider how, with our newfound knowledge of ourselves, we may develop the best possible relations with every human being we know.’
Q1. Put a bracket around this and beside it: write GOAL

[We live in reality. We learnt from our mistakes so that today we can live in the best possible relationship with every human being we know].

Q2. Continue writing 3 x 5 cards – and if you would like to, share them with your buddy or buddy group.
[Let God work through the group. Of course no feedback. How does it sound to you when you read it aloud? Keep going to God asking: Is that what they need to hear from me?]

Q3. If you were to make an amends today what is your motive?
Keep checking your motive and keep going to your God and your buddy group.

Questions
Again, good generalship, if there is question, perhaps about what you want to say or whether you have hurt and harmed someone, bring the 3 x 5 card to me either at the workshop or off-line one to one: stephaniew324@gmail.com

The main question to ask is: God show me what you want me to know about this amend.
And I guarantee God will show up.

Amends:
We are only in the preparation stage and it is where we bring our recovery from the inside to the outside and into the world. You are telling people: I am in a recovery programme, I am working on myself, I see that I harmed you in this particular way.

Amends need to be done with the utmost wisdom. Amends is not just a quick: I am so sorry. To say that will hurt them even more than not saying anything. It needs to be done with the right heart. That is why I am going to belabor Step 8. Just like step 7 where you really saw you were the problem, and our mistaken thinking was the problem. In all our relationships in our whole life – it has been our mistaken thinking. Now we have tools to learn from those past mistakes and to really become women of wisdom. So in Step 8 we go very very slow and cautious. in step 8,

If God puts somebody in my path I had forgotten, I can say: Can I speak to you privately for a few minutes? Then say: I am in a 12 step recovery programme and when I knew you in high school I was really really fearful and unhappy and I was jealous of you and I was not kind to you and I am really sorry for that. Today if you came into my life I would not treat you like that but I hope you accept my amends. And that is it.

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Recording for June 16, 2016

NOTICE: Unfortunately, The Recording Is Not Available For This Meeting.

(week 231-2 ) 16 June 2016 12 Step Study All Addictions Big Book Workshop

(wk 231 on June 9 2016 when Stephane was away – see week 230 for soul work)

Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.”

To join the members list, be sent the soul work and/or if you would like a buddy, contact:
sue7263@aol.com

8am EST Tuesdays workshop (same tel. no.) studying Bill W’s biography ’Pass It On’ .
callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913#

If you would like to contact Stephanie
stephaniew324@gmail.com

Donations are urgently needed towards the cost of the website.
Stephanie says: We could use some money. We just had the third attack on our website in six months and had to buy more protection. I will put every penny I have to protecting your computer from our website. Thank you to Debbie and Linda for your help.”

Please send to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

or via Pay Pal on the website: 12stepstudyworkshop.com (click on Thursday).

Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.”

Big Book page 76, beginning of third paragraph:

‘Now we need more action, without which we find that “Faith without works is dead.” Let’s look at Steps Eight and Nine. We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends. We made it when we took inventory. We subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal..”

Steps 8 and 9 are very much action steps

Q1. On 3 x 5 cards write the person’s name, contact details and the exact nature of the harm done. Divide these into three piles:

1. I am ready to make the amends now
2. I am not yet ready
3. I never want to make amends. I don’t know if I need to make amends.

Pray about all the cards and take them to Quiet Time – especially those on the third pile.

Go back to when you took inventory (which is some time ago now). Remember all you have to write on the card is the name, contact information, the exact nature of your wrong. You may not know the exact nature of your wrong so do a step 10 – continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong and promptly admit it – did I really harm them? If there is a question mark put in the third pile and keep asking God.

So this is your action right now: Writing and praying.

We are separating steps eight and nine. We are looking at just step eight. We need time:

TIME: Things I Must Experience.

‘We subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal. ‘

Write this down: Pride comes before the fall.

‘The block to 100 percent honesty about 100 percent of our lives comes from pride.
and underneath this is fear of not being good enough.’

Q2. Write about that.

Please scour your life. Are you being 100 percent honest? Please bring this to God. Honesty is the key to the rest of the steps. If you reach step 8 and find yourself not being 100 percent honest about 100 percent of your life to people who expect you to have an intimate relationship with them: groups you belong to, your sponsor, spouse, buddy group, etc, write about it.
Stephanie says: ‘I believe that there is no recovery without honesty.’

Q3. Take an incident in your life, There is your story (with lots of times mistaken thinking), the other person’s story and somewhere in the middle there is the truth. Write about that – it is what step 8 brings to the light.

IMPORTANT! Do not under any circumstances make amends.

‘The action right now is to write out the cards. We are not making amends.
If you see someone you need to make amends to, make a living amends: be kind, considerate friendly. When you go to make amends and you have been kind considerate friendly, it will be easier. Remember: God is in charge.

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Recording for June 2, 2016

Week 230

>Stephanie will be in Bermuda, with no phone coverage next week, June 9.

Angela will open with 3rd Step prayer and Set Aside Prayer. Then we will read Tradition 8; each person who volunteers, will read one page.
After that we will discuss amongst ourselves. Please join and get to know each other!

We need to be very grounded within our relationship with HP, because we will be bringing other people into our practice. people who were hurt by us, and hurt people can hurt others. We don’t know if they will be hurting. That’s why why we will need guidance. HP is our Divine Order, and Stephanie will be our general. We are the army going out to do God’s bidding.
God’s bidding: to build bridges, and to be of service to others.

BB All Addictions with Stephanie
Week #230, June 2, 2016
Step 8 Big Book page 76, Paragraph 3

Read the 7th Step prayer above paragraph 3.
Note: We will go OUT from here, to do Your bidding.

We are cleaning OUR SIDE OF THE STREET. We must go out into the world and make right.
Our responsibility~to put away our character foible PRIDE, which kills us spiritually.
We have done the work within ourselves in Steps 1~7.

Step 7 is where we see how far we’ve come. We learn humility: accepting ourselves, our life as it is, our past, with God, exactly as it is.

Steps 8 & 9 is where the rubber meets the road.

Where does our list come from? Who we feel resentment towards! Do all this with God by our side.
1) The process for two weeks from today~writng our list.
A) Write down everyone on a piece of paper, including self if needed. (include owe money to)
B) Go to God, take that person, read the resentment for that person from our 4th Step inventory.
C) Put on 3X5 card everyone we resent.
D) Write exact nature of my wrongs on the back of the card. Write “I resented you because you…”
Make 3 piles, one for “Yes, now”, one for “Maybe in the future”, one for “Never”
That’s all for now.

Do this 20 minutes a day, or like you did step 4.
We do not need to go to everyone. Stephanie will guide us here.
Stephanie will give us all the details on how to approach people, get their contact info, etc.

2) If you want to answer this second question, here it is:
How does Faith fit in with Steps 1~7, and with Step 8, and answer why “Faith without works is dead” (pg 76)

Recording for May 26, 2016

(week 229) 26 May 2016 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop

To join the members list, be sent the soul work and/or if you would like a buddy, contact:
sue7263@aol.com

8am EST Tuesdays workshop on ’Pass It On’ Bill W’s biography
callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913#

If you would like to contact Stephanie (she welcomes feedback from the group on our progress:
stephaniew324@gmail.com

Donations are urgently needed towards the cost of the website.
Stephanie says: “If this group means anything to you send us a dollar, five dollars, ten whatever you can afford. We need it. I am trying to be a very very good steward of our money.
Every week our storage needs get bigger as each workshop gets put up and stored on the website and that is expensive. I did not put up the Spiritual Experience because I
did not want any further expense”.

Please send donations of whatever size to:
Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

or via Pay Pal on the website: 12stepstudyworkshop.com (click on Thursday).

12 x 12 Page 163 Tradition Seven
Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

Soul work

Look up: integrity

Q1. Finish up your questions on the spiritual experience. Are you in a good place? [You need to be to make amends].

Q2. After looking at your calendar for this month and the checks written over the last six months what would someone who did not know you think is important in your life?

Q3. Read all of Tradition Seven in the 12 x 12 – in one sitting if possible.

Q4. This is a hard question which you do not have to answer in writing, just think about. How many people go to your program because they want to get xyz? And how many say: ”I am going to give xyz to the program today?”

Q5. Next week bring 3 x 5 cards

Make a note of Stephanie’s e-mail as you will need it when we start making amends.

Re. Amends
You need to be in a good place to make amends. I am never going to tell someone who is not in a good place to make amends. I suggest instead that they keep doing the spiritual disciplines and then make the amends. Making amends is one of the most important parts of the work. At least 90% of you have a relationship with God, you know about an Action Plan, Quiet Time and accountability. Those are the spiritual disciplines you need in place to go out and make really healthy recovery amends.

We do not make amends in a hurry and to get it off our chest. We do it to be right with ourselves with God and another human being. It is not to be rushed and it is not to be done for self-centered and selfishness reasons. It is for integrity – so you can look at yourself in the mirror and then when you go to God for help you are asking with integrity. We need a lot of integrity and humility when making amends.

Recording for May 19, 2016

week 228) 19 May 2016 12 Step Study All Addictions Big Book workshop

To join the members list, be sent the soul work and/or if you would like a buddy, contact:
sue7263@aol.com

8am EST Tuesdays workshop on ’Pass It On’ Bill W’s biography
callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913#

Donations are urgently needed towards the cost of the website. Please send to:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

or via Pay Pal on the website: 12stepstudyworkshop.com (click on Thursday).

Big Book Pages 569-570
The Spiritual Experience
callback: 641 715 3900 pin no. 95666#

Soul work

Q1. Do you have peace in your heart?

If you have peace in your heart no matter what turmoil is going on around you, you have a God/higher power consciousness. If you have no peace it is because you are not in consciousness with your God/HP.

[When you are not at peace that is when you know you have to go to Quiet Time. If you possibly can, put everything aside and go for one minute, twenty minutes, whatever, to speak with God. Find prayers that speak to your heart. The Serenity Prayer, 3rd step prayer etc. Find prayers that soothe your soul. Find a mantra. Stephanie says: “I have a mantra. I wear something around my neck and I hold my symbol of my God and I do my mantra. And it calms me right down”].

Q2. E-mail Stephanie (stephaniew324@gmail.com) as she would love feedback from the group as to how you are doing.
And let her know if you are done with the spiritual experience or do you want to study it some more?

Q3. Continue with the questions on the Spiritual Experience from the last two weeks if you have not yet had time to complete them.

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Recording for May 5, and 12, 2016

(week 227 & 228) 5 and 12 May 2016 12 Step Study Workshop Big Book All Addictions
(to cover the two weeks Stephanie is away).

Please note ‘Week 227 & 228’ are the correct week numbers. Alas the numbering been out by 100 since the start of 2016 (apologies to the group – Angela).

If you would like to join the members list and be sent the soul work or if you would like a buddy, contact:
sue7263@aol.com

8am EST Tuesdays workshop on ’Pass It On’ Bill W’s biography
callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913#

Donations are urgently needed towards the cost of the website. Please send to:

Stephanie Whiting
P O Box 531
North Pembroke
MA 02358

or via Pay Pal on the website: 12stepstudyworkshop.com (click on Thursday).

Big Book Pages 569-570 The Spiritual Experience
callback: 641 715 3900 pin no. 95666#

[Stephanie’s recording covers the two weeks while she in Rome].

Q1. If you do feel like you have had spiritual experience(s) I would like you to write them down.

Look up: spiritual, experience, awakening.

Q2a) Do you think the term ‘spiritual experience’ is different than ‘a spiritual awakening’?

b) If so write on why you think they are different and give an example.

c) If you do not think they are different, please give your definitions of spiritual experience and spiritual awakening.

…upon careful reading shows that the personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism has manifested itself among us in many different forms.

Q3a) Would you say you have had a personality change?

b) Is that personality change sufficient to bring about sobriety from your addiction?

c) Is that personality change sufficient to bring about recovery: physical sobriety, emotional sobriety and spiritual connection with a God that you know?

look up: manifested, forms.

[If you don’t look up these words, these questions are not gong to mean much to you as these are not words e.g. ‘manifested’ you normally use].

Manifested itself among us in many different forms.

Q4a) Have you had a personalty change sufficient to bring about recovery from your addiction that has manifested itself in many different ways?

b) Are you different?

c) Does God and Quiet Time mean that much to you?

d) Do you even care whether you have a personality change sufficient enough to bring about recovery from alcoholism as it manifests itself in many different forms?

e) Or are you rigidly expecting I have got to have a white light experience like Bill Wilson or I have got to hear God like Stephanie did?

Yet it is true that our first printing gave many readers the impression that these personality changes or religious experiences, must be in the nature of sudden and spectacular upheavals. Happily for everyone this conclusion is erroneous.

Q5. Did you have that impression when you read this or when you read the Big Book that you had to have a huge upheaval to have a personality change or to call it a religious experience?

Look up: erroneous.

In the first few chapters a number of sudden revolutionary changes are described.

Q6a) Can you remember in the first few chapters, people having sudden revolutionary changes?

b) If you say no, go back and look them up.

c|) If you say yes, write them down.

Though it was not our intention to create such an impression, many alcoholics have nevertheless concluded that in order to recover they must acquire an immediate and overwhelming “God-consciousness” followed at once by a vast change in feeling and outlook.

Q6a) Are you in a God-conscious state now?

b) If you are, describe any type of change in your feelings and outlook.

c) Would you label this a vast change?

Among our rapidly growing membership of thousands of alcoholics such transformations, though frequent, are by no means the rule.

Q7a) Have you seen transformations like that, a personality change sufficient to bring about recovery?

b) Have you seen feelings and outlook on life change in people?

c) Have you seen many people with a God consciousness?

d) Do you look for them?

Most of our experiences are what the psychologist William James calls the “educational variety” because they develop slowly over a period of time.

Q8a) What does your definition of educational variety of ‘a spiritual experience or a spiritual awakening’ mean?

b) Is this what you have had?

Quite often friends of the newcomer are aware of the difference long before he is himself.

Q9. Have you had a friend say to you, you are not the same person any more?

To own this for yourself, change the pronoun ‘he’ to ‘we’: He/We finally realizes that he/we has undergone…

He/We finally realizes that he/we has undergone a profound alteration in his/our reaction to life; that such a change could hardly have been brought about by himself alone. What often takes place in a few months could seldom have been accomplished by years of self discipline. With few exceptions our members find that they have tapped an unsuspected inner recourse which they presently identify with their own conception of a Power greater than themselves.

look up: transformations, profound, alteration

Q10. Ask yourself have you undergone a profound alteration to your reaction to life?S

End of Part One:
Stephanie says:
“I have given you a ton of questions. You don’t have to do them all in one week. I do ask you to do some so when you come to the live meeting the second week (May 12) you will have done some questions and be able to look at this differently.”

PART TWO

“…that such a could hardly have been brought about by ourselves alone. What often takes place in a few months could seldom have been accomplished by years of self discipline. With few exceptions our members find that they have tapped an unsuspected inner resourced which they presently identify with their own conception of a Power great than themselves.

Most of us think this awareness of a Power greater than ourselves is the essence of a spiritual experience. Our more religious members call it “God-consciousness.”

Q11a) Do you think that awareness of the Power is the essence of a spiritual experience or do you know it?

b) Do you know it because of your own experience or because you have seen other people?

look up: essence, emphatically.

Put a box around ‘any’ in first sentence below.

Most emphatically we wish to say that any alcoholic capable of honestly facing his problems in the light of our experience can recover, provided he does not close his mind to all spiritual concepts. He can only be defeated by an attitude of intolerance or belligerent denial.

Promise promise promise. In Stephanie’s opinion: the biggest promise in the Big Book:

Most emphatically we wish to say that any alcoholic capable of honestly facing his problems in the light of our experience can recover.

Looking for God, seeking God you can recover. You can. Provided you/we do not close our mind to all spiritual concepts.

Q12a) Are you honestly facing your problems squarely?

b) Are you willing to look at the recovered people in your group, in our Big Book, in your life?

c) Are you willing to look at our experience strength and hope and know that you can recover if you will at least try our suggestions?

d) Are you willing to not close your mind to all spiritual concepts?

He/You can only be defeated by an attitude of intolerance or belligerent denial.

Look up: intolerance, belligerent.

Q13a) Do you see an attitude of intolerance in any area of your life?

b) Do you see an attitude of belligerency?

Q14. Are you living in 100% honesty and if not what areas of denial do you still have where you are not 100% honest?

We find that no one need have difficulty with the spirituality of the program.

Q15. Do you believe that?

look up: willingness, honesty, open mindedness, essential, indispensable

Willingness, honesty, and open mindedness are the essentials of recovery. But these are indispensable.

Q16a) Do you believe that willingness, honesty and open mindedness are the essentials of recovery?

b) Do you feel one is more important than the other. If so, which one?

c) Are you lacking any willingness or open mindedness in any area?

d) Do you agree they are indispensable or do you think it is just William James’ and Bill Wilson’s opinion?

“There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance – that principle is contempt prior to investigation.” Herbert Spencer.

Q17. Google Herbert Spencer. Find out who he is.

Look up: ignorance, contempt, prior, investigation, principle, bar,

There is a principle which is a bar against all information…

Q18. Do you believe that?

Q19. Having done this now for two weeks, write on what this quote means to you and your spiritual life?

I will be with you on May 19th. God bless you all. I hope this has been really helpful to you because it has been to me. God bless. Goodbye.

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