Week 268 All Addictions Big Book Step Study Workshop
Step Ten continued.
AA 12&12 p. 93 beginning of para 1-
p. 93 end of para 2.
“We can try to stop making unreasonable demands…” THROUGH “…Am I doing to others as I would have them do to me – today?”
Look up: courtesy, kindness, justice, love, keynotes
Q(1)How are you in stopping the pushing, pulling, prodding, dictating and
dominating (a)with the ones you love?
(b)with those who have asked you to help them? (c)everyone else–
co-workers, distant neighbors, communal church goers, exercise partners, the cashier, …?
Q(2)(a)How are you doing with showing courtesy, kindness and respect with those you love? (b)Have you changed your attitude? (c)And have you changed _____________________.
(d)Give an example from this past week or month where you did show kindness, courtesy and respect where you had shown none(previously). How did the other person respond?
(e)In the past week or month, has someone shown you courtesy, kindness and respect where they had shown none? How did that feel? And how did you react?
Q(3)(a)How are you doing with someone you dislike?
Ask God every day
how can you practice justice and courtesy (towards this person), perhaps going out of your way to understand and help them.
Q(4)(a)What spot-check inventory works for you- 1)T.H.I.N.K. or
2)was it necessary?was it kind?
or 3) where have I been selfish, self-centered, dishonest, afraid?
(Perhaps all of them together.)
(b) Are you willing to promptly admit it, to listen to that deep inner voice, that small voice inside that says you didn’t really treat another person with respect?
Q(5)Is there a person in your life that refuses to be in harmony with you? How does it make you feel? How can you put your intellect over your emotions and really treat them with courtesy, kindness, justice, and respect? (That respect is really a love.)
Q(6)Write on trying to live moving towards perfection and not resting on your laurels – by using an Action Plan.
Q(7)When in doubt of what to say and/or how to say it, keep saying:
‘Thy will, not mine, be done’.
Write on that.
Q(8)(a)Write this down:
The universal Golden Rule:
Am I treating others as I would have them treat me today?
(b)How are you doing with: “Am I doing to others as I would have them do to
me – today?”
Note: SEE Q(4)
Two more possible methods of doing a spot-check inventory Stephanie has alerted us to are:
4) ‘Thy will, not mine, be done’.
5) Asking ourselves ‘Am I treating others as I would have them treat me today?’
(Now we have 5 different ways to do a
spot-check, walking-around inventory.)