Big Book All Addictions Step Study~May 5, 2017 Week 279 Page 84-86
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Step 11 Nightly/morning/daily review. Catch wrong thinking before it spirals into something you don’t want it to.
AA Page 86 (Map for living a joyous and free sobriety. Honest self-appraisal.)
“On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for after all God gave us brains to use. Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives.
In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We don’t struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration. We come to rely upon it.”
You’re going to face indecision especially if you’re thinking is not divorced from self-pity, dishonest self-seeking motives. Should I do the God honoring behavior or live as “it’s easy and slide through”. Let’s say you make a decision for non-God-honoring behavior. Do you beat yourself up? Go out and get drunk, eat etc.? No, you can start your day anytime. Do a 10th step, ask God for help, make a new action plan, become very decisive that “I am going to turn this around and be God honoring”. That’s what you do.
You’re going to face indecision all day long however if you have “non-negotiable actions” you cut down the indecisions by a huge percentage.
Question 1: What are your “Non-negotiable actions”? ex: Stephanie’s are: Quiet time, planning and preparing my food for the day (writing it down, preparing it), exercise, getting enough sleep, church, and to do group/family commitments.
This is how the rubber meets the road — How you spend your time? There is a expression in either debtor or clutters anonymous—Time Drunk– where you waste time and you don’t even know it.
Question 2: What is your definition of “Time Drunk”.
It’s important that you don’t live in indecision or you waste time and you only get so much.
AA Page 86: “We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision”
Indecision is dangerous because it can cause you to get back into your addiction. That’s why you have non-negotiable actions. Pray, plan, prepare, protect your well-being by not being in indecision. Know what you need to do, what course to take to take care of yourself. It’s important not to steam roller over others though. Just tell them what you need and let them make a decision on what they need or want to do. It’s difficult to not push, pull, prod, or dominate when someone else is in indecision. So continue to pray, plan, prepare, protect to keep sober.
How do you determine what to do when you have a decision? A decision where you don’t know the answer? You ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy—meditate. Pray. If you get into stress and anxiety you will not be able to make clear and recovered thinking. Trust God.
Once you make a decision, run it by a trusted sponsor or program person. And make sure you run it by because we can think God is telling us something yet it could be absolute insanity.
Page 87 We don’t struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times.
You’re not going to be inspired at all times. When you know you don’t have the answer, you relax, take it easy, and say to the person who may be pressuring you for an answer: “I don’t have an answer yet, I don’t know. If you need an answer right now then it’s no.” If they can wait for me to feel good about my yes to be yes and my no to be no then I will keep on asking God. Stephanie refuses to be pressures.
Don’t ask 15 people what to do because you’re going to get 15 opinions. How is someone else’s opinion going to help you? Opinions are not from God. Ask God for help in quiet time, make an action plan, and then accountability. Inch by inch you can do it.
Question 3: What are the 11th Step promises?