Recording For June 22, 2017

(week 286) 22 June 2017 12-step Study Big Book all addictions workshop

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AA 12 x 12 Step 11
From last paragraph on page 97 “Those of us who have come to…

Soul work

Page 98:1 There is a direct linkage among self-examination, meditation, and prayer.
Above self-examination write ‘inventory.’

Page 98:2 As we have seen, self-searching is the means by which we bring new vision, action, and grace to bear upon the dark and negative side of our natures.
Above action write ‘Action Plan.’
Above dark and negative side write ‘selfishness.’

Q1. Are you doing your gratitudes and living in the attitude of gratitude? [If you are, you are going to have unshakeable willingness to do self-examination and prayer.
And if you are not, you can pray for help to do so.]

Through self-examination, meditation and prayer you make the quality of your life. We do have self-will and we can will ourselves to be grateful for what we have.

Q2. If you are grateful for what you have got you are never unhappy with what you have been given.
Write on this, giving three examples from your life.

The first two paragraphs on Page 98 beginning:
‘There is a direct linkage among self-examination, meditation and prayer…’

‘As we have seen, self-searching is the means by which we bring…’
These are promises that Bill is giving us.

Q3. Break down the above two paragraphs and own them for yourself.

Q4. Write the basic definition of humility:
I can’t, You can, I am going to ask You.

How would you, in your own words, explain humility?

Ends

Recording For June 15, 2017

(Week 285) 15 June 2017 12 Step Big Book All Addictions workshop.

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AA 12 x 12

Step 11 “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.”

From the beginning of the step until the end of the third paragraph.

Look up: sought, recoiled, obstinately.

Q1.Do you have in the back of your mind that attitude that prayer and meditation is really not necessary? Why you think you have that attitude. If you did in the past what changed it?

Q2. Are you rebelling against the idea of bowing down before the God of your understanding?
And if you are, why do you think you are rebelling?

Many of us had strong logic too which “proved” there was no God whatever. What about all the accidents, sickness, cruelty, and injustice in the world? What about all those unhappy lives which were the direct result of unfortunate birth and uncontrollable circumstances? Surely there could be no justice in this scheme of things, and therefore no God at all.

Q3. Are you going to be bemoaning the cruelty and injustice in the world or are you going to with God in Quiet Time and with an action plan overcome it with a positive attitude?

Q4. Two mothers whose sons had accidents were both at
the hospital. One mother was moaning the other was saying:
With God this is going to prove how great God is. And how God works through my son.
Where are you in relation to the story of the two mothers?

Step 1, I admit I am powerless over my refusal to try prayer and meditation and my life is unmanageable
Step 2) Came to believe that I could try to make prayer and meditation the first and most important action in my life.
Step 3) I made the decision to take the action to pray and meditate.

Q5 Are you willing to put your resistance to prayer and meditation through Steps 1, 2 and 3, asking for help?

Ends

Recording For June 8, 2017

(week 284) 8 June 2017 12 Step Study Big Book all addictions workshop.

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Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous: Into Action.
Page 87 from last paragraph:-

…“Thy will be done.” We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.

We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined.

But this is not all. There is action and more action. “Faith without works is dead.” The next chapter is entirely devoted to Step Twelve.

Definition of worry: Its like sitting in a rocking chair, you put in a lot of energy but go nowhere.

Q1. “Thy will be done.” How do you live that?
Give four or five recent things from your life that you have been having an issue with (for example for Stephanie it was exercise) and how you brought these to God. What was God’s answer, your Action Plan and did you get Accountability around it?

Q2a). Look up: moderate. How is moderate for you today in recovery?
b) When you see you are not being moderate what do you do?

Q3. Are you still trying to arrange life to suit yourself?
b) Are you willing to bring this to God?

Q4. “We alcoholics are undisciplined”.
Write about the past and the present in relation to this.

Q5.”Faith without works is dead.” What does this mean to you?

Q6. Stephanie says if she has no accountability about what she is going to do, she believes she is going to do something but then she doesn’t. Can you relate to that?

Recording For June 1, 2017

(week 283) 1 June 2017 12 Step Study Big Book all addictions workshop

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Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous: Into Action.
Page 87 from last paragraph:-

As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day “Thy will be done.” We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.

It works – it really does.

We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined.

Soul work

acronym for PAUSE: Pray And Use Spiritual Energy
(Suggest you write this in your Big Book)

We do not tire so easily Write in the margin next to this: ’11 step prayer.’

Q1 How did you do this week with:
a) not running the show?
b) humbly saying to yourself many times: Thy Will be Done?

Q2. How many times this week were you in danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or making a foolish decision?

Q3. How long did you stay in excitement of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions before you went to God, or did a spot check inventory, a nightly review, you called somebody. How long did it take?

Q4. How many times did you stop and pause instead?

Q5. Did you see how much more smoothly and efficiently your life went when you stopped, paused asked God for help, did a quick inventory or made a quick phone call. Or just said: I am not dealing with this right now. I will take it to Quiet Time later. I will talk to someone later and were really able to put it out of your mind?

Q6. How long have I struggled with the discipline of Quiet Time?

Q7.It works It really does. Do I really believe that IT is God that makes the difference?

Q8. Faith without works is dead. What does that mean to you?

Recording For May 18, 2017

(week 281) 18 May 2017 12-step Study Big Book All Addictions workshop

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Big Book Chapter 6 entitled: Into Action
Page 87:2 & start of paragraph 3.

“If circumstances warrant, we ask our wives or friends to join us in morning meditation. If we belong to a religious denomination which requires a definite morning devotion, we attend to that also. If not members of religious bodies, we sometimes select and memorize a few set prayers which emphasize the principles we have been discussing. There are many helpful books also. Suggestions about these may be obtained from one’s priest, minister, or rabbi. be quick to see where religious people are right. Make use of what they offer.

As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day “Thy will be done.” ”

Soul work

Q1 Quiet Time.
Where are you with this today?
Are you doing your morning or night meditation?
Have you invited your wife/husband/friend to join you?
d) Do you have a format that you take into your Quiet Time?
e) Have you memorised prayers you can use when you are in a 911 situation?
f) Do you have a daily reading book e.g. As Bill Sees It, that you bring into meditation? Or do you have lots of books and read several of them?

Q2a). Write about the last time you paused before you said something.
b) What’s the value of going through the day having pauses?

Q5. Write ‘prayer’ at start of paragraph 3 next to the words: “We ask for the right thought or action.” Do you see how this is step 12?

Q6a) Do you like gratitude and see its value or think its overstated in our programme?
b) Are you grateful? Are there degrees of gratitude?
d) Can you see the value and be grateful if someone is honest with you even if it is not complimentary? Or do you still think: “How dare they?”

Recording For May 11, 2017

(week 280) 11 May 2017 12-step study Big Book all addictions workshop

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At the end of Quiet Time ask God:
What’s my plan of action?
God help me to complete it.
Have accountability around it.

Big Book is saying do this all day. To be given the power, the willingness to do it.

“We ask especially freedom from self-will.” This is so important.

You have done all the hard work, now can ratchet it up, to bring you to the fourth dimension and
a life that is awesome. As an addict we are either going forwards or going backwards. Recovery
affects all areas of our life: job, relationships, health, etc.

Don’t ever say to another person:
“10 ,11 and 12 are maintenance steps.” If you are maintaining you are going back. These are growth steps that require action. Do you want to maintain where you are at or do you want to
grow and become the best possible recovered version of yourself?

Soul work

Chapter entitled: Into Action
Page 87:1

“We usually conclude the period of meditation with a prayer that we be shown all through the day what our next step is to be , that we be given whatever we need to take care of such problems. We ask especially for freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no request for ourselves only. We may ask for ourselves, however, if others will be helped. We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends. Many of us he wasted a lot of time doing that and it doesn’t work. You can easily see why.”

Q1. FEAR acronym: Face Everything And Recover
Where are you with that today and generally?

When you are angry look below it. You are afraid of something.
Fear will paralyze us even in recovery. That’s why we need step 11.

Q2. What do you fear right now? Bring these fears to Quiet Time.

Q3a) Look up: complacency. (Stephanie is trying to help us out of complacency).
b) List the areas where you are complacent.
c) Do any of these match your fears and if so how?
This is going to require wisdom so take it to God.

[e.g. God I am complacent in my financial area. What I am afraid of? Well I am 67 years old and its only three years before I retire and am not making it financially. I am not going to get a new job because I’m afraid.]

Q4a) What do you love to do?
b) Are you afraid of doing what you love?

Q5. Where are you going in the present and the future? It is going to be humdrum or exciting?

Q6. “Your will God not mine be done”.
a) What does this mean to you?
How do you sum up page 87:1?

Every program person is going to interpret this differently. Own this paragraph. Own the acronym FEAR. Own the word complacency so instead of a complacent recovery you have a dynamic one that you are excited about. A dynamic recovery means a dynamic life. You cannot separate the two.

ENDS

Recording For May 4, 2017

Big Book All Addictions Step Study~May 5, 2017 Week 279 Page 84-86

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Look up:
Non-negotiable
Intuitive

Step 11 Nightly/morning/daily review. Catch wrong thinking before it spirals into something you don’t want it to.

AA Page 86 (Map for living a joyous and free sobriety. Honest self-appraisal.)

“On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for after all God gave us brains to use. Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives.

In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We don’t struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration. We come to rely upon it.”

You’re going to face indecision especially if you’re thinking is not divorced from self-pity, dishonest self-seeking motives. Should I do the God honoring behavior or live as “it’s easy and slide through”. Let’s say you make a decision for non-God-honoring behavior. Do you beat yourself up? Go out and get drunk, eat etc.? No, you can start your day anytime. Do a 10th step, ask God for help, make a new action plan, become very decisive that “I am going to turn this around and be God honoring”. That’s what you do.

You’re going to face indecision all day long however if you have “non-negotiable actions” you cut down the indecisions by a huge percentage.

Question 1: What are your “Non-negotiable actions”? ex: Stephanie’s are: Quiet time, planning and preparing my food for the day (writing it down, preparing it), exercise, getting enough sleep, church, and to do group/family commitments.

This is how the rubber meets the road — How you spend your time? There is a expression in either debtor or clutters anonymous—Time Drunk– where you waste time and you don’t even know it.

Question 2: What is your definition of “Time Drunk”.

It’s important that you don’t live in indecision or you waste time and you only get so much.

AA Page 86: “We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision”

Indecision is dangerous because it can cause you to get back into your addiction. That’s why you have non-negotiable actions. Pray, plan, prepare, protect your well-being by not being in indecision. Know what you need to do, what course to take to take care of yourself. It’s important not to steam roller over others though. Just tell them what you need and let them make a decision on what they need or want to do. It’s difficult to not push, pull, prod, or dominate when someone else is in indecision. So continue to pray, plan, prepare, protect to keep sober.

How do you determine what to do when you have a decision? A decision where you don’t know the answer? You ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy—meditate. Pray. If you get into stress and anxiety you will not be able to make clear and recovered thinking. Trust God.

Once you make a decision, run it by a trusted sponsor or program person. And make sure you run it by because we can think God is telling us something yet it could be absolute insanity.

Page 87 We don’t struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times.

You’re not going to be inspired at all times. When you know you don’t have the answer, you relax, take it easy, and say to the person who may be pressuring you for an answer: “I don’t have an answer yet, I don’t know. If you need an answer right now then it’s no.” If they can wait for me to feel good about my yes to be yes and my no to be no then I will keep on asking God. Stephanie refuses to be pressures.

Don’t ask 15 people what to do because you’re going to get 15 opinions. How is someone else’s opinion going to help you? Opinions are not from God. Ask God for help in quiet time, make an action plan, and then accountability. Inch by inch you can do it.

Question 3: What are the 11th Step promises?

Recording for April 27, 2017

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Week 278 April 27, 2017
When you’re on your death bed, you’re not going to wish for more money or possessions. You’re going to be thinking about relationships. For Stephanie, the order of relationships is God first, her husband second, and her relationships third. She puts a lot of time and effort in being with people. Her church family, her recovered family, her family, her husband’s family. People, people, people. A recovered person cares about others as much as yourself.

Step 11: Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.”
It takes Step 1, 2, & 3. I can’t, God can and I’m going to let him. It has to be iron clad. Referenced “The Hawk” and Mark Houston workshops. They said when someone slips, it’s always a question of step 1. Step 1 has not been iron clad. Slipee has allowed wiggle room. “I’m not really powerless, I can handle it”. When you have trouble with any step, you go back to the one before it. EX: I don’t want to do step 11, then they would say you go back to step 10 and question and say “Do I really believe I have to take personal inventory?” Then you go back to 8&9, 6&7. There is a character defect that you’re not willing to face. You question yourself (with your sponsor) and you end up with step 1. You’ve given yourself a loophole. You’re not powerless and so you don’t have to have a God and you haven’t made that decision. There is something in your inventory that you don’t want to face.
The greatest gift to your recovery is to admit where you’re having trouble. Everything depends on your willingness to do 6&7. You can’t make good amends without total willingness to look at your mistakes. You make your amends and you live daily walking around looking at yourself. Being aware of your attitude. Am I kind, loving, do I have the joy of recovery? Am I a person that others see as positive. While maintaining boundaries. It’s not about me, it’s about God. Being an instrument for God.
Live in 10, 11, 12 daily
Step 11, you are serious gaze and gage about how you were doing the day. And if we’re not happy with how we lived our day, answer these questions and realize you need to improve yourself. But can you improve yourself? No, you need God. Step 11, you go to God and say, I was not the best version of myself today. I was cranky, procrastinated, etc. Just talk to God about where you weren’t the best version of yourself. Step 11 is Looking at yourself honestly like you do in 6&7 but knowing you have a partner. And that’s God.

EX: I wasn’t abstinent today, talk to God and ask God for help. Then put the bat away.

Paragraph 86.2
On awakening let us think about the 24 hours ahead…..

We plan our day. Pray, Plan, prepare, protect. Quiet time, plan, think about the 24 hours ahead, prepare the day and protect. How to do protect? Has to be certain things that are Iron clad. Ex quiet time, exercise, food prep, etc. Nothing that gets in the way of doing these things. Could be work at 7:30 etc.
Question 1) Write it down What they mean to you. Pray, plan, prepare, protect
Question 2) For the next week. Do it every day. Plotting it in Pray, plan, prepare, protect
Question 3) Bring it to God, yourself and to another human being.

You don’t have to live a stressed life because you have the plan in front of you. But you do need to defend your plan. You need to pray to God for boundaries.

Put intellect over feelings. Wrong motives is people pleasing. What’s the bottom line of people pleasing? Fear

Recording For April 20, 2017

Week 277

Big Book All Addictions Step Study~April 20 2017
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Questions for Week #277
Big Book, page 86
We live in 10, 11 & 12. All day long. It flows like a day. Like one continuous day (ex: you can skip the afternoon etc.) Continue to take personal inventory and when you’re wrong, promptly admit. And you might not know you’re wrong until 3 days later. Don’t separate them. They are very fluid, like a day.

Step 10 is the walking around step. Trying to be as conscious as you possibly can about how you’re reacting and interfacing with other people. Walking through your day: is it kind? is loving? Is it considerate? Are you living recovered?

Step 11 is prayer and meditation. All day long. God help me accept this….. Mediation is not necessarily sitting in a quiet place. Stephanie meditated on making pies, or on lifting weights. And if you have a conscious contact with God, then every action you do is a form of mediation and action.
We’re living in 10, 11 and 12 and when we’re not our conscious lets us know, we’re inventory, admit it, make amends.

Being recovered (living in 10, 11 & 12) is God conscious all of the time. That’s our goal. “Having had a spiritual experience” you don’t forget it or who gave it to you. And when you’re not living loving, forgiving, patient etc, you’re not living in God consciousness. So inventory yourself, go to God in quiet time, do action plan (maybe to change your thinking) and work it in all your affairs.

Look up: “divorced”, “self pity”, “dishonest”, “self seeking”, “motives”

1) Write in your own words how is Steps 10, 11, 12 one fluid Step?
2) What does “pray, plan, prepare and protect” mean in relation to Steps 10, 11, 12?
3) Do you make plans (rough plans ok) for your day? You can relate ‘action plan’ to this. How can you live a ‘recovered life’ in your day.
4) What does “consider your plans for the day” mean to you, after hearing what Stephanie related what it means for her?